Monday, December 31, 2012

Making Blessings Stretch

Alhamdulilah sometimes as parents we want to be able to give our children the best of the best and sometimes the best things to give our children may not have to be expensive.

 There are some of us who may be experiencing hard ships with finances and some of just may want to save money and do things in a healthy way.

There is no doubt that our homes and children can feel a financial difference if we began to make a big deal out of it in a negative way. When the money runs low... or iman should not. When the money runs low.. our hopes and trust in Allah are high...

We have to make our blessings stretch ... so tonight I sat down and thought of a few ways we can save money.

1.) Menu plan: yes this helps us to save money honestly. We take one day of the week and that is usually Saturday, to write down the weeks menu. Best thing in my opinion is to make a menu based ff of what you have in your home already! This way you're getting rid of leftovers and saving money. Then compile a grocery list of items you do not have to complete the meals you are putting together in your home. You may have flour and milk to make a cake, but no eggs. So you would put eggs on your grocery list.  Alhamdulilah menu planning also takes the stress off of, whats for breakfast, whats for dinner?!!! rush.

2.) Foundational Cooking- get back to the foundations of making it ourselves. Alhamdulilah we saved money making our own yogurt than buying it at the store. You get more of your money's worth making it and it last longer alhamdulilah! Also baking bread for us has saved money, there is so much you can make with flour that getting flour is cheaper than buying a loaf of bread, a box of crackers, and a cake combined... yes with flour you can make all those items (made crackers recently mahaAllah, turned out good)

3.)Homeschool on a budget/ educational materials- Alhamdulilah sisters if we can get together and start sharing our unused homeschooling materials with each other and those in need, many of us may not need to spend a lot of money for curriculums. MashaAllah even if we sell them, it does not have to be expensive for others to buy. Alhamdulilah  the local library has many books that we can constantly check out over and over again that can help us. I have been blessed alhamdulilah with good friends that has helped in our homechooling so much.

4.)Spend less on trips- One of the things we love about the summer time (and a lot in the winter too) are the free fun trips for children in our City. Each first of the month the museums are free and sometimes they are open with discount days. You would be surprised how much you can do for free on a budget, mashaAllah aslo never neglect the simple joys of taking a nature walk and exploring your local community. The fire station loves when you bring children in to visit... they were so happy when we brought the children by for a sit in the fire truck,

5.) DIY- alhamdulilah you can save the planet and save money by making your own natural and healthy products. No need to spend so much money on cleaning supplies. Alhamdulilah you can make your own:

Deoderize carpets-
Mix baking soda with a little scented oil, mix it together- test it on a small spot, for us our carpet was fine with it and we sprinkled it on the carpet then let it sit for a little and vacuumed it.
others have used baking soda with cinnamon or clove... just be sure to test it in a small spot inshaAllah

All purpose cleaner-
Vingar
Water
Tea tree oil .. mix equal parts water and vinegar and add tea tree oil for smell and anti bacterial benefits mashaAllah place it in a bottle and label it

You can also get cleaning done with baking soda, salt, lemon, vinegar and different essential oils help to enhance it.

Organic fruit and vegetable wash-
1 lemon
2 tbs of vinegar
1 cup water
Squeeze the lemons and mix with vinegar and water

Alhamdulilah there are many things you can make on your own that would be better for your family health wise and financially mashaAllah

Of all these we should always remember Allah, alhamdulilah it is all a test, how we respond and react is important... patience, prayer, and positivity .. subhanAllah needed this reminder! Our families also need this from us, and this was in my heart tonight so I am very happy to write and share it with everyone.. I really pray it helps someone... I know its helping me subhanAllah alhamdulilah


“We will surely test you with something of fear and huger, and the loss of wealth and lives and the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere, who say—when afflicted with calamity—“To God We belong, and to Him we shall return!” They are on those whom descend blessings from their Lord, and Mercy. Such are the rightly guided.” (Quran 2:155-157)


Sunday, December 30, 2012

Milling Our Own Flour

 
Alhamdulilah we have been milling our own flour off and on for a couple months
I rather enjoy the process of milling the flour and watching the wheat berries turn into the flour we use for our bread.

In the picture we milled some brown rice, made it into flour and then made bread with it alhamdulilah it was different, taste a lot like cornbread in my opinion.

They say one of the benefits of milling your own flour is one, you can ehance it however you like. For us we use flaxseed, while it is whole and then combine it with the wheat berries, to have a whole wheat flax seed combination mashaAllah.
 
Sometimes if we are making homemade crust you can mill the wheat berries with whole cloves into a fine .. autumn smelling and tasting flour. Alhamdulilah that's one of the nice things about milling the flour.
Even though we enjoy getting 100% whole wheat flour from our grocery store and Whole Foods, we have read that even that flour the germ is removed from it. Removing the germ is said to help the flour have a longer shelf life, where as keeping the germ and milling it, it can go bad in a couple days.
 
Another interesting thing is, milling your own flour is not expensive, as the cost of rice and oatmeal are not expensive and if you are going gluten free, there is no gluten in oatmeal and rice. It's not time consuming or a burden to grind some for when you need it, at least not to me mashaAllah.
 
It's good to mill just enough for what you need so you do not waste any by it going bad! My sister in law gave us a lot of wheat berries recently, and another neat thing about wheat berries is the ability to grow them into sprouts, sounds good in a salad or sandwich right? mashaAllah
 
Whether we will venture in completely milling our own flour, i know its been a nice experience. We have made almond butter and inshaAllah we plan to turn our garlic, tumeric and coriander into powders inshaAllah
 
Maybe in a week or so we will try milling oatmeal and making a bread with it inshaAllah to see if we like it much better than wheat.
 
we are using a nutribullet to mill our flour. It was a blessing to recieve it as a gift from my mom in law. Not only does it mill flour, it also turns veggies and fruits into juice mashaAllah. Alhamdulilah it has helped us more in making our foods healthier.

Monday, December 24, 2012

Giveaway time!!!

 
It's time don't you think? Well alhamdulilah we have been doing a few youtube videos and decided that we would do a giveaway of the second book:
 
 
 
Its available on amazon alhamdulilah!! :TMH: Thoughts Of A Domestic Darling
 
December 28th inshaAllah we would love to have all the wonderful essays :) emailed to traditionalmuslimah@gmail.com so please do spread the word and keep us in your duaa!!
 

Monday, December 17, 2012

Homemade Cinnamon Pudding- Goodbye Box Pudding!

SubhanAllah I had a craving for banana pudding today mashaAllah! I think it was because the children were opening the bananas and not fully eating them hmm, well we have been really striving to not do the box -processed foods and do a lot more of.. what we like to call foundational cooking, homemade meals and items 

We just knew somewhere in the world someone has made pudding before and alhamdulilah found an easy simple recipe! Sadly, we ate it all before I could take a picture so the picture here is not of my homemade pudding... you have to use your imagination!!

The recipe called for vanilla pudding but we did not have vanilla so we used cinnamon and sugar in the raw, not white sugar. It was good and the children loved it!

The recipe is:

1/3 cup sugar
3 tbs cornstarch if you do not have cornstarch then 3 tbs of flour replaces 1 tbs of cornstarch!
a little salt
2 1/2 cups milk
1 1/2 tsp vanilla
cinnamon - optional

Combine the cornstarch salt and sugar on the stove and slowly add in the milk, boil until thick and then place in the fridge.

We added banana's on top subhanAllah what a treat!! Didn't think it would be so easy and the family approved.

We can add this to our list of box items we won't buy anymore alhamdulilah!

Homemade Butter

Alhamdulilah we have a few youtube videos on our youtube channel.
Some excerpts from the second book and a homemade butter video :) mashaAllah please do check it out and share! We enjoyed making it

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Yummy Yogurt




Alhamdullah you will be surprised at how easy it is to make your own yogurt. Not only is it easy, its much more cost effective than buying yogurt from the store. All you need is patience, milk, crockpot and a small container of yogurt (for the live cultures).

You could buy cultures but alhamdulilah it was much easier for us to buy a yogurt that had live cultures in it.

How to make yogurt in your crockpot:
Pour gallon of milk in crockpot
Heat on high for 2 hours
Turn off the crockpot and leave it alone for 3 hours

If you can put your fnger in the crockpot for 10 seconds then take out two cups of warm milk, mix in the yogurt starter and then pour it back into the crockpot.

Wrap the crockpot with a towel, to help the yogurt cool down slowly and then let it sit for 11 hours and better overnight. Some people put it in the oven of course with the oven OFF, just as an extra way of locking in the heat. This is optional, just don't forget that the crockpot is in the oven!

Enjoy yogurt with homemade granola or fruit jams!

Wow I should have done this a long time ago mashaAllah! We have some good yogurt mashaAllah and my husband enjoyed it, looks like the children will be having homemade yogurt for snack today!



If you need tips for thicker yogurt: Tips for thicker homemade yogurt

Monday, October 22, 2012

Homemade Bleach Alternative


Hydrogen peroxide 1/2 cup
Vinegar 1/2 cup
1 cap tea tree oil

InshaAllah combine and then fill the rest of the container with water label and store it. I read this is also safe for color clothes
I also read you can clean the bath tub and  toilet with it. I have not tried it yet for cleaning but I did use it on my boys karate clothes mashaAllah it works well but I will blog about it later for cleaning inshaAllah!


Homemade Laundry Detergent

Homemade Laundry detergent!

MashaAllah this was great to use on the clothes. It smells good and easy to make. I wanted a borax free laundry detergent and was glad to run into one online

1 cup Dr Bronners castile soap, I used lavender
1 cup Baking Soda
1 cup washing soda .... I read that by putting baking soda in the oven on 350 it converts to washing powder, because the heat changes the chemical property to that of washing powder
1 cap of tea tree oil

Warm the water and then add the baking soda and washing soda until dissolved, put in container then add the tea tree oil and dr bronners!  

Pretty simple and my husband and I loved the smell.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Loving Your Spouse For Allah


By: Ameer Idris Rahim

Alhamdoo leellah ~ We thank Allah for the blessings of Islam & most of all we are thankful for the blessings of the most splendid person who taught us our Islam, Prophet Muhammed, the Messenger of Allah alayhe Salatoo wa Salam. The teachings of the Deen tells us that marriage fullfils half of the Religion/Way of life. So marriage is a matter of VERY serious importance.

So to be complete in the Deen one needs to get & stay married. Two, very different matters & the former naturally procededs the latter. But staying together can & will happen by the Grace of Allah if & when we know, HOW TO MAKE OUR MARRIAGE WORK.

Because marriage does not work if it is broken. Ane we know the Prophet alay he Salat Allah told us that " to break a woman is to divorce her". And we know that the dreadful "d" word is the shaytons #1 objective ... i.e. destroy the family- meaning break up marriages ... So this article of knowledge & information is to remind us all of what we know deep down inside already. If the love is pure & strong, we wont go wrong.

So what is the Purest & Strongest source of Love? 

The all Almighty, all Loving Lord God-Allah. And we know that most beloved of all the creation, is the Prophet Muhammed alay he Salat Allah, who told us. " I have been made to love 3 things from your world .... 1 . pleasant fragrance 2. (qualities in) woman 3. Salat/Prayer which is what cools my eyes. ..... So what then, could be more beautiful than the combination of all 3 ... Praying with ones beloved wife who smells pleasantly wonderful (in the home of course).  So thats the 1st tip that we advise ourself with & all who read .....

#1.  Pray together & love to pray together. Always remember that when we have a praying spouse we MUST love them, for the fact that, they love The God of all-Allah, enough to do what He most Exalted has commanded them to do. Which is, pray everyday, at least 5 times. Subhan Allah, the blessing of having righteous, sincere, praying companionship, is the best companionship of all.

#2. Take intimate time to be together to learn beneficial things & pleasure each other & learn how to do that, one way to learn about each others likes & dislikes is simply saying ..... i really like it when you ________ & the same for what you don't really like (in a nice, kind, pleasant way of course :). And that is enough on that topic.

#3. Realize that your spouse has feelings, that are to be treated even more delicately than one would treat a carton of eggs when traveling. No one likes to be offended. As my beloved father may Allah have Mercy of his soul would say .... An offended person is  harder to win over, than a fortified fort.

#4. Don't be difficult .... Why give someone a hard time when you don't have to .... Do we like it when people give us a hard time? .... So then there you go. OK .......

# 5. And most important....  let the dreadful "d" word (divorce) be the furthest thing (word) from you mind & tounge .....  & work everyday to make sure your marriage works ..... it will work if you work it & its worth it, so work it ..... as my beloved mother always says, may Allah ta ala preserve my loving momma~ Ameen Allah Ameen. And to my wonderful amazing wife for life, i pray Allah ta ala increases you & your loved ones in much goodness & magnify your rewards for your sincere strives to benefit the community of the Prophet Muhammed alay he Salat Allah. Ameen Allah Ameen ~ Wal Hamdoo leellahee Rabbill alameen

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Homemaking Thoughts

I used to feel so trapped in the walls of my home. Kids running, hubby wanting, time is ticking and the day drags on oh ...so..... slow. I felt like I was not living. In the sense of , is this what my life really comes down to? I'm just changing diapers, cooking meals, and cleaning for the rest of my days? Wow... how depressing I thought.

I don't know what happened, I don't know at all, but I woke up one day and saw things differently. I think it was all those motivational blogs. I began to see my purpose in a new light.

I do more in my home than I imagined. Really, think about what we do in our home. We feed the hungry, not only their bellies but their minds. We love and nurture them, helping them to grow into loving individuals who will love and nurture their own children one day inshaAllah.

I have a purpose, and if I do these things well in my home, I have then helped add a person to society that will make it better beithnillah! WOW talk about a lot on my shoulders... I went from thinking I was carrying nothing, to holding a bolder :) mashaAllah but with the help of Allah I can carry the bolders the best way possible.  I'm 29 with five children, I use them as my inspiration alhamdulilah homemaking has allowed me to do more than just sit around at home or "stay" at home, I am homemaking with a purpose.

Waking up each day to fulfill that purpose, in prayers that Allah is pleased and He is guiding along the way to take care of the home and those who live in it.

It is not possible to be happy homemaking if you feel like what you are doing is nothing. I'm telling you it is a lot...  it's a honor really mashaAllah. Allah entrusted me, with a family to take care of and home? What a blessing, and with each blessing we should take care of them to the best of our ability.

Naturally I still get tired, but it is from doing things for my family, and in doing things for them, my heart feels good and my heart feels happy. I love all my children and husband, I thank Allah He blessed me with them and they inspire me to write the books I write, to homeschool, to enjoy what I do..because I enjoy them.

I love what I do, because I am doing it for people that I love.

I Wake up every day to tell myself, there is so much blessings in this life and go into the day thinking of what a blessing it is... and not a burden

Well until my next post....happy homemaking with purpose

Monday, October 8, 2012

A new book!!!

Okay can I scream dance and jump for joy?

I think I did mashaAllah alhamdulilah Allahu akbar!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay I had to get that out LOL. I should be sleeping but my children are.... and I was just editing the book for the last time before I officially share it with the public.
Ya Allah please let this be of some benefit for others and that they may grow, take better care of their loved ones, and seek to get closer to You ameen ameen

If you purchased the first book: Journey Of A Muslimah Homemaker: Spirituality In Homemaking ..I pray it was of benefit and alhamdulilah I have gotten some honest reviews about it. I took them in deeper consideration in this second book. Adding more to the book about my journey homemaking, it's also about the importance of prayer, patience, service and helping. 

As I tell people... alhamdulilah these are my thoughts and experiences, I pray there is some good people can get from it. I did not think two books would happen.. I just started the blog and wanted to document the journey, it has not even been a full year yet i believe.
I share some of the recent blog post in it, a few of my favorites that I feel are very important mashaAllah 


I'm sitting here nervous and excited.... asking Allah to use me in a way to help others and myself. 
So this book will be available on Amazon..I want to say before Monday ... but I'm too nervous to slap a date on it LOL

Please keep us in your duaas and all praise is due to Allah, I ask He guides me in every area of my life and leave me not to myself... I am in constant need of remembrance of Him and this is why I am happy to have these books available ..as I do travel around or read in my home, it is good to have those pick me ups available and Islamic reminders

InshaAllah once the book is made public we will be sure to let others know... looking forward to the feedback

R E S P E C T-- Respecting Your Husband

Alhamdulilah week two in our Sweet Sunnahs Of Marriage series has to do with respect. I am sure many of you have heard the song RESPECT and she says in the song "find out what it means to me." well let's talk about what it means to him

MashaAllah marriage is a wonderful union between two people and in order for that marriage to work and grow, we should respect each other.
Our husbands are the head and leaders of the family. They deserve respect and order. SOME of us respect our bosses at work more than our husbands, astagfirllah. The blessings in respecting our husband is not only pleasing to Allah but you are making your marriage better. He wants, loves, and appreciates a woman that will respect him and value the man he is (all that is good) and will help him grow into more.

1.) Trust- this has a lot to do with respect. Trust that your husband is making good decisions and always pray Allah guides your husband to make the best decisions. When we act as though we know more and know best, it makes our husband feel less. It takes real tact and finesse to be able to expression concern in your husbands decisions without being offensive and disrespectful.

2.) Honor him- keep his secrets and say good words about him to yourself and others. He may not have qualities you like but I pray he has many more that you do like. What moved your heart to marry him? What does he do that puts a smile on your face? Keep pleasant speech about your husband and strive not to fall into the .. "he aint never..." "he is so ungrateful..." category there is a hadith that says:

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you." Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 2, Number 28


3.) In respecting our husbands, we must use a speech that shows it. Yep, holding back your tongue is not always easy. but what would you rather? To say harsh words that harm his heart or to keep back from that and choose peace instead? Not everything is worth fighting about, and how draining it is and unproductive it can be to be at odds with your spouse


"I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannahfor one who has good manners.''
[Abu Dawud]




4.)  This week inshaAllah show that you respect your husband.... if he says something- show true interest in what he is saying and compliment him about it. Really listen to his cares, concerns and thoughts. Give him positive feedback and be the support he needs. There are many enemies in the world but no one wants to live with them in their home!

Thursday, October 4, 2012

A Mother's Thoughts

The whole house is sleeping this early Friday morning and I cant sleep. Using the time to think, blog and catch up. I also watch the children sleep. I thank Allah for all of them. I thank Allah for blessing me with 5 children to care for. God knows I dont feel like the best wife and mom a lot of times but I do know I strive to get better. I watch them crawl, walk, and run.. i'm seeing them grow into their own. 

As mothers we are constantly praying that Allah guides us to raise peaceful, loving, and God conscious children. Some people may not think we do much of anything because we "stay" at home, but the lives we take care of and help to mold, are an important part of society. Life lessons, relationship matters and schooling are being done in the home and this is no easy task. Every day  it is important to ask Allah to guide us in managing our homes and taking care of our children.

I know at the end of the day when they are sleeping, they were fed, taught, loved and it makes me feel good.

For every dirty dish..my children were fed, thank you Allah
For every piece of laundry in the basket... my children were clothed. thank you Allah
For every book out, my children were learning alhamdulilah
For every hug and kiss.. my children were nurtured and loved subhanAllah

We do more than stay at home, we provide a service at home. This service is one that doesnt require money, it requires heart... to provide this service we must do it with love. When we do it with love, it becomes more fulfilling ... and the lives around us benefit from this love. You put this energy into what you do..... and you gain so much more from it ya Allah!

This is my early morning  rant.. just watching my children sleep. May Allah protect them always ameen.


Whole Wheat No Yeast Bread






Recipe:

3 cups flour 
1/2 tsp salt 
3 tbs baking powder 
1 tbs olive oil 
2 cups water 
add honey or sugar in the raw to desired taste.




 Combine dry and then liquid. Add baking powder last and mix all together . Optional instead of water 2 cups almond milk and 1 cup almond pulp also add flaxseed and wheat germ. There is no rise time so alhamdulilah you can put it in a loaf pan then in the oven on 350 or breadmaker on bake setting. For the panera bread style bread bowl mold to a ball put an x on it and put on parchment paper



We don't use yeast all the time...pretty rare but it is just for our family not to use often. I have not seen many really no yeast bread recipes and through a lot of trial and error and success, this recipes works for me alhamdulilah

It smells great in the oven!! You may want to double the recipe to get a big loaf




Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Motivational Homemaking: Homemaking Binder

Alhamdulilah time to get things more in order with a homemaking binder. A lot of free printables from ihearorganizing.com mashaAllah my twin sister introduced it to me and I love the bright happy and colorful menu planners, weekly schedules etc. Also did I mention its free? Need a little inspiration to get organized? I must admit having these printables are a motivation mashaAllah.


You can also find free printables at Organized Home's website mashaAllah. On my trip I am focusing on what tools I need to get more organized. InshaAllah I want to start fresh when I get back to new york.

Well Bismillah.... here we go!

Monday, October 1, 2012

The Loving Helpmate

Week 1: The Muslimah Wife Is A Loving Helpmate
On my trip to Baltimore I decided to reflect on my marriage, my role as a mom and having been married 6 years, I took a trip through memory lane. Looking to see what improvements may need to be made and how far I have come.  Alhamdulilah  my husband honestly told me how far I have come and while I still have some ways to go, he has seen so much good mashaAllah! 

I remember in the beginning of our marriage we were not on the same page. For awhile it was do me...do you.. and I'm already there, you need to catch up kind of thing. My husband constantly wanted to be in unison and for awhile I was not getting it. I asked myself  "Am I being a good help mate?" I ask you to ask yourself the same question. SubhanAllah sometimes we think we are helping but we are really hurting.  

To be a better helpmate we can use kind words to encourage our husbands. Wake up and gently remind them of the day goals, say encouraging words to get them going and be in constant duaa.  What goals can you help your husband accomplish for the week? How can you make his day easier? Help him prepare.   

How to be a good helpmate:

1.) Say words that will help and not hurt
2.) Use your hands for building and not destroying
3.) Follow the directions of your husband and not always go against him
4.) Give 100% effort in making your bond strong ... let go resentments no grudges
5.) Pray constantly 


Theres a hadith that goes: Abu Hurairah reports Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam said: Each join in the body has a sadaqa that is mandatory upon it every day that the sun rises: to act justly between  two people is sadaqa, to  help a man up on his riding animal or lift his stuff up onto it for him is sadaqah, the good kind word is sadaqa and with every step you walk to the masjid is sadaqa, and to pick up a harmful item from the middle of the path is sadaqa

This week: Think of ways to help  him accomplish his goals. Ask him what does he need and if you know- then take steps to help him accomplish it.
Use love, patience and prayer to be the help he needs.

Ask yourself: are you a good help mate? and ask Allah to help you get better at helping those in your life. Also ask what is holding you back? and work to remove those barriers

Sweet Sunnahs Of Marriage

Alhamdulilah after some time away from blogging, I'm back to introduce a 4 week renewal of marriage with the Sweet Sunnahs Of Marriage Month

The next few weeks us Domestic Darlings will be working on marriage with prayers that Allah guides us to continue all the positive and new lessons we learned during the weeks of October. 


Join us this inshaAllah as we learn more about helping, loving, appreciating and respecting that special man in our life.

Each week will be a different topic and tip to put into practice inshaAllah


Tuesday, May 22, 2012

The Islamic Art Of Being Lady Like

In this society, the more outspoken you are the more "real" you are. If you can say what's on your mind and not care who hears it and how it was said, then you are being "real".  Which is in reality, being real rude, crude, and reckless, which is real unGodly. On our social media forums, it seems that some of us ladies are not taking in consideration our tongues, minds, and hands subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah sometimes we are not thinking twice before we type.

Have you ever heard of the term loose cannon? Well, being loose is not lady like. Loose in speech, loose in actions.. is losing it-- losing our womanhood, depreciating it. Many "new aged" women would not appreciate this type of post, since they appreciate whats worldly acceptable and unGodly, and often depreciate what Islam says.

What happened to being lady like? Where we would not dare speak about certain subjects in a detail, crude, and vulgar manner?

As Muslimah women we should always mind how we speak, act, and converse with others.

The Islamic art of being lady like takes self discipline, self knowledge, and working towards self mastery.


Those who have achieved this and are working towards it do not do the following:

We do not curse... Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "A believer is not a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene."
Cursing is not attractive...it's not lady like and not part of Islam. Lips that keep the dhikr of Allah and not the words of obscenity are the lips that bring Angels :) alhamdulilah

We do not make public our private intimate matters with our spouses. Theres a hadith that teaches, "The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the man who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret." and this would apply to men and women. SubhanAllah if we are having issues in matters of the bedroom we should discuss that only with the party involved..our spouse and when doing so it should be done with finesse and tact, and that's a whole other blog post!

We should avoid gossip, the devil gives you work to do if you do not keep yourself busy. Women who are often not partaking in memorizing Quran, listening to or attending Islamic classes, or are in the company of positive God fearing people could end up on the gossip train. The Prophet salAllahu alayhi wa salaam said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said "Allah and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger  of Allah said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him."- Muslim
And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah, verily, Allah is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." (49: 12)

We are mindful of our inward and outward hijab. Hijab is more than what we wear but it is also how we act. When around non mahram men, we are extra mindful of our voice and carry ourselves in a respectable manner. 
We dress in clothing that is not tight and shows off of skin alhamdulilah we dress in hijab in the way that is prescribed in Islam.

Lets be mindful of the Islamic art of being lady like, and remember that Allah is ever aware of what we do, and that on the day of judgment we will be called to account for every matter

If we do not keep our devils/ jinns chained up..then with them we will be off the chain! 

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Classy Feminine Homemaking

I read this wonderful article on homemaking and adding personal touches to enhance your homemaking attire. I must admit pearls and an apron are classy, but I do not own any pearls! Besides, I wanted something different and special. A friend of mine on facebook crochets and she made these wonderful hijab pins. (Aqilah Crochet)

I bought a few, looking to update my homemaking and hijab attire. MashaAllah they came in the mail and added so much beauty and feminine class to my every day look. While they weren't pearls, they were much better mashaAllah. Beautiful handmade flowers in beautiful colors. I put my hair up, put on my apron and clipped the flower in my hair. I personally felt like the prettiest homemaker ever, I didn't look frumpy and messy while cleaning. I looked fantastic and classy while cleaning mashaAllah...at least thats how I felt!

If you are ever bored with your homemaking, add extra to it. I find that sisters who go the extra mile, get extra excited about homemaking and those who don't usually won't.

You can get bored day in and day out doing the same thing, the same way, and it can then become lifeless, and not so...exciting

It's amazing what one little crochet flower can do, a pretty apron (homemade), and changing the style of your hair can do for you and for your family. MashaAllah the children and hubby loved it and it was nice to do something different

In our homemaking we should make it exciting ..try new meals the whole week, decorate, make desserts you never tried before and watch how you feel afterwards.

Changing up my look a little, did a lot for me mashaAllah. I love my flowers and wear them every time I go out and often times when I am in the house.

How do you add class to your homemaking? Is it a pair of earrings, how you wear your hair, or the kind of clothes you wear? If you don't then inshaAllah it would be really good to do something new.

First time babywearing (DIY)

Alhamdulilah it's been awhile since I have posted. MashaAllah with the newest addition to our family here, we have been slightly busier and adjusting to new schedules and just bonding. Recently I was looking for a baby carrier. I saw some really nice looking ones such as the moby wrap and while all the colors were cool and bright, there were a few problems I had that stopped me from buying them:

1.) Too expensive
2.) Didn't appear convenient
3.) Looked uncomfortable for my back

Granted I did not buy the wrap, I read a lot of reviews from people who have and even if number 3 was not a factor, I knew number 2 would be a real issue. I could not imagine being outside, then nursing the baby and having to unwrap a lot of fabric and then needing help to redo it.

On the TMH facebook page (www.facebook.com/traditionalmuslimah) a wonderful friend and sister in Islam Umm Haya of Fulltime Muslim Mommies and Wives suggested using a bed sheet. I thought that was interesting so I looked it up online and found a video on how to do it with a bed sheet.

Alhamdulilah I was going to go out and buy a sheet LOL but Allah is so Merciful, my husband had this wonderful fabric that he uses for a turban in the house. It is stretchy, long, and it was just right mashaAllah. Also helped that it made me think of him :)
Even though it is black it works perfectly for babywearing mashaAllah.  So after cleaning it and measuring it out...I tried it on the baby and he was comfortable, close to my heart and happy

We just saved a little more than 40.00 dollars and it feels comfy, and good for me and Tahleel. Simply by draping it over my shoulder and tying a slip knot (that helps you adjust the tightness) I had my very own baby carrier mashaAllah (see video: http://magiccityslingers.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/how-to-carry-a-baby-in-a-bed-sheet-or-shawl-or-rebozo-or-shorty/)

Now with my first time officially babywearing... I already ran into so do's and don't's in regards to summer time babywearing. One if you can help it... Do not use black, in my case, this fabric is breathable, stretchy, and very good for now! Do wear light colors and put light colors on the baby, especially if you are using a black carrier. Do dress in cool outfits, light fabric, nothing too bulky. I have a habit of wearing over coats even in the summer so I had to not do that (obviously right ;) and do enjoy it!


Monday, April 16, 2012

Washing Clothes With A Washboard

Alhamdulilah for weeks I was contemplating on getting a washboard. I often find myself washing clothes by hand, and not waiting until laundry day. Generally laundry day is on Wednesday's and by that time the children my have made quite a mess. After reading about other people experiences with washboards and hearing the great results, I purchased one on ebay! It was a two day auction and I was making much duaa I would get it.

After the two day auction I won! mashaAllah... the washboard came with soap, a sop tray, towels, and a never been used washboard. It was in a cabin used as a decoration. So alhamdulilah it was delivered very quickly and I have enjoyed using it.

While the children are in the tub, sitting and playing with their toys... I am right next to them using the washboard ..inside of a big clear bin that I soak the clothes in. At the same time keeping  watch on the children and washing the clothes.

I spend the time dhikring..thinking about the days task and really mostly talking to the children at the same time as they ask me about the washboard and how it works.

 This domestic darling is enjoying each scrub on the washboard. I like the results mashaAllah! The whites are white and wonderful, all the clothes smell great and I think it makes my job easier.

I am considering alternating between the washboard and washing machine, right now alhamdulilah the loads are so low, I believe with consistency I can keep it this way using the washboard..it takes dedication and organization... two things I am working on.

When the children are not in the tub and are sleeping, I use the tub for larger loads of  clothes and use my feet to walk on the clothes vigorously to agitate the dirt out.

The children have also taken part in this experience and  washed their clothes by hand..I let them select one item each that they really wanted and they sat with me as I taught them how to hand wash their clothes mashaAllah

Well my adventures in washing with a washboard have really just begun. InshaAllah I will learn how to make my own laundry detergent very soon .

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

A Joyful Wife

Funny how in your home the simplest thing can remind you of something so meaningful and special.

My household blessings began a little earlier than usual, at about 3 a.m. and even then I was telling myself how we should sacrifice for our families, sleep included.

Loving them and taking care of them has it's rewards and whether we see them now or later, we must know they do exist alhamdulilah

I went to wash my dishes this morning and sometimes I might be super tired, or ready to sit down but this morning was pretty different. I never paid attention to the dish detergent until this morning and saw it was called Joy...  I wonder why they named it Joy.. is it because they want people to be happy to wash dishes, feel a sense of gratitude to have dishes to wash, or could it be taking Joy in taking care of your family. How about all those things!

That's what I got out of my bottle of Joy, and some clean dishes to match alhamdulilah. I decided to keep the bottle, it's nearly empty but I am keeping it as a reminder and inshaAlah I will fill it with some homemade detergent.
InshaAllah I will show more joy in washing my dishes, grateful that minutes before, we were blessed to have a meal..made by my hands that Allah provided for us...and be joyful that they ate happily and were fed another day.

There are others in the world that would trade places with us and would gladly have dishes to wash as a "consequence" of eating a meal.

Are we taking joy in our household blessings? 




"Abundance of worldly wealth is not richness of happiness, the real richness of happiness lies in contentment" (Hadith Muslim)


Sunday, March 25, 2012

The Rahmah of Raha Soaps!

Alhamdulilah my family was blessed the past week to receive our package of hand made soaps from Raha Soaps!

Okay I must admit that even the box (before I opened it) smelled so good mashaAllah.

What fits my homemaking heart and living is that Raha Soaps are homemade, and hand made. Each soap takes a lot of time (about 3-6 weeks) to make, but each bar is made with patience and love. Love of making soaps and love of giving their customers natural, great quality, and wonderful soaps. How can you not love that?

I opened the package on the train and there were quite a few wonderful smells:

Lavender
Ginger Lime Coconut
Palmroasa
Turkish Coffee
and Sweet Orange Patchouli which is My husband's favorite one.

I enjoyed their soaps so much that I have decided to buy them on a regular bases inshaAllah. I used the chamomile soap on the children at night, for their night time bath. They loved the smell, so much so that I had to hide the bar from them, because they constantly wanted to smell and use it!

Alhamdulilah I ordered some soap for my over night bag in May. Since I am due with my fifth child then, I would love to have some nice items in my bag to relax me and make me feel good.

I really think it is important to feel good and smell good. Smelling good has a lot to do with my mood. You must admit that certain scents can change how you feel. Even with my pregnancy my nose has become more sensitive and so having pleasant smells around me helped a lot.

Raha Soaps surely lives up to its name (serenity) in every bar!
Please check out their website and support their wonderful business, you won't be disappointed mashaAllah.

Thanks to Raha Soaps Website for allowing Traditional Muslimah Homemaker to review their great soaps.

Facebook: Raha Soaps



Bread Making...Thoughts

This is a special task...one that I am so glad I started, in almost 6 years of marriage I am just learning over the winter that making bread calms my heart, gives me peace of mind, brings me closer to Allah, and is a good memory my children will have. People use shopping and other things as a means to rid of stress and feel good...for me it is baking bread..kneading the dough is something I enjoy...I also feel more motherly, watching my children eat their bread ..bread that "Ummi made"


Over the past couple months we have not bought store bread.. another plus for making my own bread alhamdulilah. 


Sisters, this makes for a great after fajr treat... such a wonderful feeling to rise early.. pray ..and put a lot of love and dhikr into each kneading of the bread..each mixture of the ingredients. What a wonderful way to reflect and get closer to Allah


Who knew bread making had so many benefits?


Good for your health, good for your heart and good for your iman


Also it helps to do this when the house is calm and quiet.. it's already near 10 a.m. and I am smiling to myself thinking of making bread after fajr tomorrow inshaAllah.. I already have a warm feeling inside <3

Monday, February 27, 2012

Pregnancy and Homemaking

“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.” (Quran – Luqman:14)


Alhamdulilah my adventures in homemaking began months after becoming pregnant. While making bread, homeschooling, writing The Journey Of A Muslimah Homemaker, and keeping up with editorial deadlines ..I was (still am) battling nausea, the ups and downs of pregnancy and being tired.  I ended up writing two articles on Homeschooling While Pregnant and Homeschooling While Pregnant- Natural Energy Boosters


I had a lovely chat with my twin sister whom is also pregnant (due a few weeks after me) and we talked about how am I able to get things done while being pregnant?  I totally thought this convo made for a good blog post. 


Hate to sound cliche but seriously : Take it one day at a time (I am sure hubby will laugh at this later) I like to do what is necessary first and if I have the energy for the other task I will do them or they may have to wait until tomorrow. We may not have the energy to get everything we want done the same day. You have to pick and choose which household blessings need to be tackled today and reserve some for tomorrow! I just know too many sisters who even have a hard time getting out of bed, and it is understandable. Slow and steady...take your time. This is not a race! You do not have to over work yourself. I like to say, I get more things done in a slow manner then if I rush to try and get in much in one day, by the end of the day I am very tired, sick, sore and not in a good mood all because I was rushing.


Consistency is good for me. Wake up early in the morning, write four things you want to accomplish that day.. a small load of laundry, the bathroom, etc and set out to do them before the end of the day. I feel bad if the day went by and I did not do anything, having some goals to accomplish makes me feel good and on my homemaking toes. 


Plan Ahead well some of us know from being pregnant that we are always sick or very tired the same time every day LOL. I am actually very tired around 8 p.m. so what does that mean for me? I get everything done before 8, the house is quiet and the children are fed by then. My husband knows at that time I am very sleepy or worn out. My days start between 5:30 a.m. or 6 a.m. so yes by 8 I am ready to shut down :) I like to have my bread done before 8, whether I made it by hand or used the breadmaker. The house cleaned, floor swept, food put away from dinner and it's down time. If there is motion going on alhamdulilah hubby is handling everything at that point


Always remember Allah, yep turning to Allah and asking for ease and strength and using the tools and things He provided to make our pregnancy journey much smoother.. Allah provided us with loving mates, and inshaAllah reaching out to them they will help in taking the load off when we need to take a load off. If you have older children, giving them small household blessings to accomplish will aid in helping us as well. Also taking a look at the natural Islamic energy boosters and use the wonderful blessed foods Allah has provided to help us get energy. I would be snacking on dates for many days, not only because its a natural blessed energy booster but it personally helped my nausea and it was yummy with cream cheese.


InshaAllah this helps our pregnant homemakers! Read Surah Maryam and many duaas>  Please keep me ad my family in your duaas as we are near the end of this beautiful journey



Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Spiritually Connecting Our Homes To Allah Part 1

How can we spiritually connect homes to Allah?

A more spiritually uplifting home, gives an iman boost.  Pictures of Islamic materials and ayats on the wall fill the home with constant reminders of Allah.

Giving life to our home spiritually through Islamic actions such as praying together, fasting together, and learning Quran helps to make our homes an atmosphere of peace and closeness to Allah.

Volume 1, Book 8, Number 424:
Narrated Ibn ‘Umar:
The Prophet had said, “Offer some of your prayers (Nawafil) at home, and do not take your houses as graves.”
What is the feeling of being in a cemetery? Lifeless, cold, not animated...death
Our homes should not be like that. Constant reminders of Allah should be around the home and Quran should be recited or even played through out the home.
Allah says in the Quran that remembrance of Allah gives the heart ease. How much ease will everyone have  in their hearts if it is always in a place of remembering Allah?
In our home we love to hang up artwork from the children and put duaas on the wall. One activity we did to teach the children the importance of duaa is let them paint their hands and put them on the paper to look like its making duaa and then we added a duaa around it that they had.
Some days I feel drained and tired, I might need some motivation to get into the groove of my household blessings and homeschooling, so reciting duaas and making wudu helps to refresh me and remember my Lord, asking Him for strength to get through the day.
It is a blessing to be able to stay at home and to not be put in places or work in places that makes one spiritually, mentally, and physically drained.

Allah is the Light of the heavens and the earth. The similitude of His light is as a niche wherein is a lamp. The lamp is in a glass. The glass is as it were a shining star. (This lamp is) kindled from a blessed tree, an olive neither of the East nor of the West, whose oil would almost glow forth (of itself) though no fire touched it. Light upon light. Allah guideth unto His light whom He will. And Allah speaketh to mankind in allegories, for Allah is Knower of all things
In houses which Allah has permitted to be exalted and that His name may be remembered in them; there glorify Him therein in the mornings and the evenings,- Quran 24 35-36


Filling our homes with the remembrance of Allah is like filling our homes of light, and that is far from feeling like a grave.

Its advantage for us alhamdulilah we can either make our homes for us or against us. Alhamdulilah we play an active role in boosting our teams (family) morale. Our atmosphere is what we make it.
We can choose to turn on Quran or blast the radio. At the end of the day there is more to be gained by reciting the verses of Allah and not the music outside.
Challenge for us this week, I think we do some decorating of Islamic art and hang it on the wall. InshaAllah I will strive to do a part 2 soon.

Monday, February 20, 2012

Homemade Apron

I just started baking a couple months ago and I love it. We have been enjoying homemade bread that we  have not bought store bread in months! Yay! alhamdulilah very happy about that.

Needless to say all this baking has been getting flour on my clothes. I needed an apron. I looked online for one and the prices were just too much for me! At 7 months pregnant there was no getting around getting flour on me.

On Traditional Muslimah Homemaker's facebook page one of the sisters mentioned about making one. I thought that was a pretty cool idea! But I am not so good at sewing etc.

I decided to challenge myself and make one... using a nice old skirt I cut it into two pieces ... now this apron can be just a top or a bottom. I used ribbon to tie it at the top and bottom. This requires some light sewing on my end to keep the ribbon in place for the bottom half.

Alhamdulilah now I have an apron!! All I have to do now is do a little extra trimming and light sewing then it will be fully finish.

Though I did wear it around the house already spinning in circles LOL :)

Do I feel like baking? yes I sure do! mashaAllah