Monday, October 22, 2012

Homemade Bleach Alternative


Hydrogen peroxide 1/2 cup
Vinegar 1/2 cup
1 cap tea tree oil

InshaAllah combine and then fill the rest of the container with water label and store it. I read this is also safe for color clothes
I also read you can clean the bath tub and  toilet with it. I have not tried it yet for cleaning but I did use it on my boys karate clothes mashaAllah it works well but I will blog about it later for cleaning inshaAllah!


Homemade Laundry Detergent

Homemade Laundry detergent!

MashaAllah this was great to use on the clothes. It smells good and easy to make. I wanted a borax free laundry detergent and was glad to run into one online

1 cup Dr Bronners castile soap, I used lavender
1 cup Baking Soda
1 cup washing soda .... I read that by putting baking soda in the oven on 350 it converts to washing powder, because the heat changes the chemical property to that of washing powder
1 cap of tea tree oil

Warm the water and then add the baking soda and washing soda until dissolved, put in container then add the tea tree oil and dr bronners!  

Pretty simple and my husband and I loved the smell.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Loving Your Spouse For Allah


By: Ameer Idris Rahim

Alhamdoo leellah ~ We thank Allah for the blessings of Islam & most of all we are thankful for the blessings of the most splendid person who taught us our Islam, Prophet Muhammed, the Messenger of Allah alayhe Salatoo wa Salam. The teachings of the Deen tells us that marriage fullfils half of the Religion/Way of life. So marriage is a matter of VERY serious importance.

So to be complete in the Deen one needs to get & stay married. Two, very different matters & the former naturally procededs the latter. But staying together can & will happen by the Grace of Allah if & when we know, HOW TO MAKE OUR MARRIAGE WORK.

Because marriage does not work if it is broken. Ane we know the Prophet alay he Salat Allah told us that " to break a woman is to divorce her". And we know that the dreadful "d" word is the shaytons #1 objective ... i.e. destroy the family- meaning break up marriages ... So this article of knowledge & information is to remind us all of what we know deep down inside already. If the love is pure & strong, we wont go wrong.

So what is the Purest & Strongest source of Love? 

The all Almighty, all Loving Lord God-Allah. And we know that most beloved of all the creation, is the Prophet Muhammed alay he Salat Allah, who told us. " I have been made to love 3 things from your world .... 1 . pleasant fragrance 2. (qualities in) woman 3. Salat/Prayer which is what cools my eyes. ..... So what then, could be more beautiful than the combination of all 3 ... Praying with ones beloved wife who smells pleasantly wonderful (in the home of course).  So thats the 1st tip that we advise ourself with & all who read .....

#1.  Pray together & love to pray together. Always remember that when we have a praying spouse we MUST love them, for the fact that, they love The God of all-Allah, enough to do what He most Exalted has commanded them to do. Which is, pray everyday, at least 5 times. Subhan Allah, the blessing of having righteous, sincere, praying companionship, is the best companionship of all.

#2. Take intimate time to be together to learn beneficial things & pleasure each other & learn how to do that, one way to learn about each others likes & dislikes is simply saying ..... i really like it when you ________ & the same for what you don't really like (in a nice, kind, pleasant way of course :). And that is enough on that topic.

#3. Realize that your spouse has feelings, that are to be treated even more delicately than one would treat a carton of eggs when traveling. No one likes to be offended. As my beloved father may Allah have Mercy of his soul would say .... An offended person is  harder to win over, than a fortified fort.

#4. Don't be difficult .... Why give someone a hard time when you don't have to .... Do we like it when people give us a hard time? .... So then there you go. OK .......

# 5. And most important....  let the dreadful "d" word (divorce) be the furthest thing (word) from you mind & tounge .....  & work everyday to make sure your marriage works ..... it will work if you work it & its worth it, so work it ..... as my beloved mother always says, may Allah ta ala preserve my loving momma~ Ameen Allah Ameen. And to my wonderful amazing wife for life, i pray Allah ta ala increases you & your loved ones in much goodness & magnify your rewards for your sincere strives to benefit the community of the Prophet Muhammed alay he Salat Allah. Ameen Allah Ameen ~ Wal Hamdoo leellahee Rabbill alameen

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Homemaking Thoughts

I used to feel so trapped in the walls of my home. Kids running, hubby wanting, time is ticking and the day drags on oh ...so..... slow. I felt like I was not living. In the sense of , is this what my life really comes down to? I'm just changing diapers, cooking meals, and cleaning for the rest of my days? Wow... how depressing I thought.

I don't know what happened, I don't know at all, but I woke up one day and saw things differently. I think it was all those motivational blogs. I began to see my purpose in a new light.

I do more in my home than I imagined. Really, think about what we do in our home. We feed the hungry, not only their bellies but their minds. We love and nurture them, helping them to grow into loving individuals who will love and nurture their own children one day inshaAllah.

I have a purpose, and if I do these things well in my home, I have then helped add a person to society that will make it better beithnillah! WOW talk about a lot on my shoulders... I went from thinking I was carrying nothing, to holding a bolder :) mashaAllah but with the help of Allah I can carry the bolders the best way possible.  I'm 29 with five children, I use them as my inspiration alhamdulilah homemaking has allowed me to do more than just sit around at home or "stay" at home, I am homemaking with a purpose.

Waking up each day to fulfill that purpose, in prayers that Allah is pleased and He is guiding along the way to take care of the home and those who live in it.

It is not possible to be happy homemaking if you feel like what you are doing is nothing. I'm telling you it is a lot...  it's a honor really mashaAllah. Allah entrusted me, with a family to take care of and home? What a blessing, and with each blessing we should take care of them to the best of our ability.

Naturally I still get tired, but it is from doing things for my family, and in doing things for them, my heart feels good and my heart feels happy. I love all my children and husband, I thank Allah He blessed me with them and they inspire me to write the books I write, to homeschool, to enjoy what I do..because I enjoy them.

I love what I do, because I am doing it for people that I love.

I Wake up every day to tell myself, there is so much blessings in this life and go into the day thinking of what a blessing it is... and not a burden

Well until my next post....happy homemaking with purpose

Monday, October 8, 2012

A new book!!!

Okay can I scream dance and jump for joy?

I think I did mashaAllah alhamdulilah Allahu akbar!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay I had to get that out LOL. I should be sleeping but my children are.... and I was just editing the book for the last time before I officially share it with the public.
Ya Allah please let this be of some benefit for others and that they may grow, take better care of their loved ones, and seek to get closer to You ameen ameen

If you purchased the first book: Journey Of A Muslimah Homemaker: Spirituality In Homemaking ..I pray it was of benefit and alhamdulilah I have gotten some honest reviews about it. I took them in deeper consideration in this second book. Adding more to the book about my journey homemaking, it's also about the importance of prayer, patience, service and helping. 

As I tell people... alhamdulilah these are my thoughts and experiences, I pray there is some good people can get from it. I did not think two books would happen.. I just started the blog and wanted to document the journey, it has not even been a full year yet i believe.
I share some of the recent blog post in it, a few of my favorites that I feel are very important mashaAllah 


I'm sitting here nervous and excited.... asking Allah to use me in a way to help others and myself. 
So this book will be available on Amazon..I want to say before Monday ... but I'm too nervous to slap a date on it LOL

Please keep us in your duaas and all praise is due to Allah, I ask He guides me in every area of my life and leave me not to myself... I am in constant need of remembrance of Him and this is why I am happy to have these books available ..as I do travel around or read in my home, it is good to have those pick me ups available and Islamic reminders

InshaAllah once the book is made public we will be sure to let others know... looking forward to the feedback

R E S P E C T-- Respecting Your Husband

Alhamdulilah week two in our Sweet Sunnahs Of Marriage series has to do with respect. I am sure many of you have heard the song RESPECT and she says in the song "find out what it means to me." well let's talk about what it means to him

MashaAllah marriage is a wonderful union between two people and in order for that marriage to work and grow, we should respect each other.
Our husbands are the head and leaders of the family. They deserve respect and order. SOME of us respect our bosses at work more than our husbands, astagfirllah. The blessings in respecting our husband is not only pleasing to Allah but you are making your marriage better. He wants, loves, and appreciates a woman that will respect him and value the man he is (all that is good) and will help him grow into more.

1.) Trust- this has a lot to do with respect. Trust that your husband is making good decisions and always pray Allah guides your husband to make the best decisions. When we act as though we know more and know best, it makes our husband feel less. It takes real tact and finesse to be able to expression concern in your husbands decisions without being offensive and disrespectful.

2.) Honor him- keep his secrets and say good words about him to yourself and others. He may not have qualities you like but I pray he has many more that you do like. What moved your heart to marry him? What does he do that puts a smile on your face? Keep pleasant speech about your husband and strive not to fall into the .. "he aint never..." "he is so ungrateful..." category there is a hadith that says:

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you." Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 2, Number 28


3.) In respecting our husbands, we must use a speech that shows it. Yep, holding back your tongue is not always easy. but what would you rather? To say harsh words that harm his heart or to keep back from that and choose peace instead? Not everything is worth fighting about, and how draining it is and unproductive it can be to be at odds with your spouse


"I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannahfor one who has good manners.''
[Abu Dawud]




4.)  This week inshaAllah show that you respect your husband.... if he says something- show true interest in what he is saying and compliment him about it. Really listen to his cares, concerns and thoughts. Give him positive feedback and be the support he needs. There are many enemies in the world but no one wants to live with them in their home!

Thursday, October 4, 2012

A Mother's Thoughts

The whole house is sleeping this early Friday morning and I cant sleep. Using the time to think, blog and catch up. I also watch the children sleep. I thank Allah for all of them. I thank Allah for blessing me with 5 children to care for. God knows I dont feel like the best wife and mom a lot of times but I do know I strive to get better. I watch them crawl, walk, and run.. i'm seeing them grow into their own. 

As mothers we are constantly praying that Allah guides us to raise peaceful, loving, and God conscious children. Some people may not think we do much of anything because we "stay" at home, but the lives we take care of and help to mold, are an important part of society. Life lessons, relationship matters and schooling are being done in the home and this is no easy task. Every day  it is important to ask Allah to guide us in managing our homes and taking care of our children.

I know at the end of the day when they are sleeping, they were fed, taught, loved and it makes me feel good.

For every dirty dish..my children were fed, thank you Allah
For every piece of laundry in the basket... my children were clothed. thank you Allah
For every book out, my children were learning alhamdulilah
For every hug and kiss.. my children were nurtured and loved subhanAllah

We do more than stay at home, we provide a service at home. This service is one that doesnt require money, it requires heart... to provide this service we must do it with love. When we do it with love, it becomes more fulfilling ... and the lives around us benefit from this love. You put this energy into what you do..... and you gain so much more from it ya Allah!

This is my early morning  rant.. just watching my children sleep. May Allah protect them always ameen.


Whole Wheat No Yeast Bread






Recipe:

3 cups flour 
1/2 tsp salt 
3 tbs baking powder 
1 tbs olive oil 
2 cups water 
add honey or sugar in the raw to desired taste.




 Combine dry and then liquid. Add baking powder last and mix all together . Optional instead of water 2 cups almond milk and 1 cup almond pulp also add flaxseed and wheat germ. There is no rise time so alhamdulilah you can put it in a loaf pan then in the oven on 350 or breadmaker on bake setting. For the panera bread style bread bowl mold to a ball put an x on it and put on parchment paper



We don't use yeast all the time...pretty rare but it is just for our family not to use often. I have not seen many really no yeast bread recipes and through a lot of trial and error and success, this recipes works for me alhamdulilah

It smells great in the oven!! You may want to double the recipe to get a big loaf




Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Motivational Homemaking: Homemaking Binder

Alhamdulilah time to get things more in order with a homemaking binder. A lot of free printables from ihearorganizing.com mashaAllah my twin sister introduced it to me and I love the bright happy and colorful menu planners, weekly schedules etc. Also did I mention its free? Need a little inspiration to get organized? I must admit having these printables are a motivation mashaAllah.


You can also find free printables at Organized Home's website mashaAllah. On my trip I am focusing on what tools I need to get more organized. InshaAllah I want to start fresh when I get back to new york.

Well Bismillah.... here we go!

Monday, October 1, 2012

The Loving Helpmate

Week 1: The Muslimah Wife Is A Loving Helpmate
On my trip to Baltimore I decided to reflect on my marriage, my role as a mom and having been married 6 years, I took a trip through memory lane. Looking to see what improvements may need to be made and how far I have come.  Alhamdulilah  my husband honestly told me how far I have come and while I still have some ways to go, he has seen so much good mashaAllah! 

I remember in the beginning of our marriage we were not on the same page. For awhile it was do me...do you.. and I'm already there, you need to catch up kind of thing. My husband constantly wanted to be in unison and for awhile I was not getting it. I asked myself  "Am I being a good help mate?" I ask you to ask yourself the same question. SubhanAllah sometimes we think we are helping but we are really hurting.  

To be a better helpmate we can use kind words to encourage our husbands. Wake up and gently remind them of the day goals, say encouraging words to get them going and be in constant duaa.  What goals can you help your husband accomplish for the week? How can you make his day easier? Help him prepare.   

How to be a good helpmate:

1.) Say words that will help and not hurt
2.) Use your hands for building and not destroying
3.) Follow the directions of your husband and not always go against him
4.) Give 100% effort in making your bond strong ... let go resentments no grudges
5.) Pray constantly 


Theres a hadith that goes: Abu Hurairah reports Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam said: Each join in the body has a sadaqa that is mandatory upon it every day that the sun rises: to act justly between  two people is sadaqa, to  help a man up on his riding animal or lift his stuff up onto it for him is sadaqah, the good kind word is sadaqa and with every step you walk to the masjid is sadaqa, and to pick up a harmful item from the middle of the path is sadaqa

This week: Think of ways to help  him accomplish his goals. Ask him what does he need and if you know- then take steps to help him accomplish it.
Use love, patience and prayer to be the help he needs.

Ask yourself: are you a good help mate? and ask Allah to help you get better at helping those in your life. Also ask what is holding you back? and work to remove those barriers

Sweet Sunnahs Of Marriage

Alhamdulilah after some time away from blogging, I'm back to introduce a 4 week renewal of marriage with the Sweet Sunnahs Of Marriage Month

The next few weeks us Domestic Darlings will be working on marriage with prayers that Allah guides us to continue all the positive and new lessons we learned during the weeks of October. 


Join us this inshaAllah as we learn more about helping, loving, appreciating and respecting that special man in our life.

Each week will be a different topic and tip to put into practice inshaAllah