Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Like A Rope's Knot: Saying "I Love You" Without Words

Whether you have been married one year, or 12 years, we could always use a little extra umph in our marriage to make it even more exciting.

I woke up this morning with the song in my head (and I am not that familiar with it but the tune was in my head) "I woke up in love this morning, fell asleep with you on my mind"

While it is a great feeling to love your husbands and have someone to wake up to, we can do this much better if we love our Lord much and desire to sleep having done what Allah has commanded us to do and being at peace with our spouse. Double the rewards and blessings

When you wake up in the morning try different ways to renew your love.  Every day there is something new to be done.


When a husband and wife look at each other with Love, Allah looks at both with Mercy"




  1. Loving gestures-  A simple touch, says so much. The touch is a powerful thing, I truly believe that is why it is haraam for men and women who are not related to touch. The lightest feathery touch is enough to send signals and feelings of warmth and love through the body. When we see our husbands we should embrace them before they leave and when they come home. Even in the middle of the day when they are home we should take moments to show affection.  A rub on the back, gentle touch on the face, and kiss says I love you, I admire you, I think you are handsome, and I am happy to be with you. 
  2. Get Creative-  If you have a husband that is gone before you wake up in the morning, leave a loving note by the door. When my husband was not feeling well, he came home to a wall dedicated to him, full of get well soon, duaas, and "I love yous" he felt so good and smiled every time he was near the wall. How creative can you get? Buying a card, sending a sweet text message, or even an email are fun ways to say I love you. I put this hadith on the wall and a rope with two knots,  Aisha radiAllahu anha asked the Prophet SalAllahu alayhi wa salaam "How is your love for me?" "Like the ropes knot" He replied meaning that it was strong and secure.  Time after time she would ask him "How is the knot?" and he would reply "Ala haailha in the same condition" at the end of this hadith I wrote in the note "May Allah make our love strong and secure like the rope's knot ameen" he was so moved by it, but even things we think do not mean anything means a lot. It does not have to be expensive over the tops gifts.
  3. Loving meals- Nothing says loving like a good meal in the oven LOL.  Surprise your husband by making his favorite meal or dessert. For me, putting extra love and dhikr into making sweet treats from scratch and good meals shows that I love him and I love my family. Throw on your apron, bring out the rolling pin and  turn those pancakes into hearts.
  4. Smile- Smile at him, do  not let him see your face angry and hostile. This is the opposite of showing love.  Our facial expressions should show love, warmth and cheer. A husband coming home to a smiling face is love.  Have you notice when people smile at you on the street you can't help but smile back, it's like a natural response. So remember service with a smile :)
  5. Yeah I'm interested!- Show interest in what he likes, ask how was your day with genuine care to know how his day was. Ask him questions to show you care about what he likes. When he shows enthusiasm for something, show the same. Don't look bored, sound bored, and bring down his good cheer and dreams. A supportive woman makes a man feel good and strong. 
What ways can you say I Love You without saying it? 

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Cream Cheese Danishes, Apple and Jelly Danishes

I spent the whole say yesterday excited about making these mashaAllah. Because this includes yeast and rise time ..I made them after midnight! It was so worth it too mashaAllah  


Ingredients for pastry:



  • 1 cup warm milk

  • 1/2 cup sugar

  • 1.5 teaspoons salt

  • 2 eggs

  • 1/2 cup butter, melted

  • 2 1/4 teaspoons yeast (equivalent to 1 packet of yeast)

  • 3.5 cups of bread flour (or all purpose if you can't find bread) 


    I mixed together the ingredients and kneaded until it was soft and not sticky, the I placed in a buttered bowl, flipped it over and put it back in so buttered side is up..after waiting for it to rise..which is about a hour and half I made the cream cheese frosting to go inside


    Cream Cheese Frosting-

  • 8oz cream cheese, softened

  • 1/4 cup sugar

  • 2 egg yolks

  • 2 teaspoons lemon juice

  • 1 tablespoon vanilla extract

  • 1/4 teaspoon salt

    Okay after dough had risen.I punched it down... and then rolled it out ..I don't have a rolling pin so I used my hands and stretched it as far as I can, I cut slices of it and molded it to the size I wanted for the danish, using my finger to dig a well in the center...I was moving so slow the dough in the center would rise again LOL ..thats because I was undecided on what to fill in the center besides cream cheese (I wanted a variety ...yeah I know that was so last minute LOL) so after digging the little well I placed the cream cheese frosting in the middle, I also used regular jelly

    For the apples, I put the apples in cinnamon on the stove cooked in water sugar and vanilla until it got tender drained it...let it cool completely and filled in one of the danishes that had cream cheese.

    Put it in the oven 350 for less than 20 mins

    After it came out and cooled I poured the glaze topping on it which is made with:


    Glaze
    • 1 cup confectioners sugar
    • 2 tablespoons milk
    • 1 tablespoon melted butter

    Wednesday, December 21, 2011

    The Early Muslimah Gets The Barakah: Benefits of Rising Early



    I read a beautiful Proverbs this morning that said: Proverbs 31:15 “She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.”

    I rolled out of bed this morning while it was still dark and started my daily task, bread making being one of them. I won't even touch my ingredients until I have prayed, this me time is also one that begins my spiritual state of the day, Fajr.

    Bread making is something that I like to call my me time, I enjoy it so much and so it is best for me to do it while the house is still sleeping.

    The blessings of getting up in the middle of the night is not only personal time for yourself but personal time with your Lord.
    Allah Almighty says, "And stay awake for prayer during part of the night as a supererogatory action for yourself. It may well be that your Lord will raise you to a Praiseworthy Station," (17:79) and the Almighty says, "Their sides eschew their beds," (32:16) and the Almighty says, "The part of the night they spent asleep was small." (51:17)


    Allah speaks of the believers leaving their beds, I know it is hard for many of us to wake up out of a peaceful sleep to walk onto the cold floor and make wudu and pray. But, How much more peaceful our hearts and souls would be for pleasing our Lord? 


    I used to get up at 11 p.m. (I know...I know...) but alhamdulilah my life has become much better by waking up earlier. Here are some ways you can benefit:



    • Personal time with your Lord: There is nothing more peaceful than a quiet house, prayer being made, and time to reflect and make duaa. Spend this time reading Quran, memorizing a new ayat, or listen to recitation
    • Preparation- Prepare for the day if you have not prior to, what do you need to get accomplished? What errands do you need to run? what lessons are you going over for the day? what meals are you making? Ask yourself these things and plan what you are going to do to accomplish it
    • Personal time- I use my early morning hours to do things I cannot usually enjoy in the middle of the day such as applying henna, it takes time to dry and it is perfect time to do that when the kids are sleeping, no rush to cook, clean, or do anything that requires much work. Write in your journal, check your emails, blog,  or have that long uninterrupted shower.
    • Quality time- Spending time with your husband, praying together, reading Qurn, sharing a memory before he goes off to work and just being in each others presence is much needed especially after having children. When I make bread in the morning, I have the pleasure of being at my husband side, he may be working on a project and talking to me while I am making bread. It feels good to be able to have that adult time.
    • Get ahead- Knock out those chores that you cannot do when children are awake, like mopping for instance. Make meals ahead of time and clean up before the children wake up, you will find that you have gotten much done before they woke up and can easily put your focus on the children, without neglecting the house
    • Exercise- Whether you do walking, yoga in your living room or another exercise in the house, this is a good way to get your energy up, feel good and have a go get em attitude. 
    Baby steps is part of the key, if you wake up at 10 every day, try aiming for a little earlier the next morning and keep going until you stay up after Fajr. Some of us make fajr and go back to bed, but trust me in the long run you will see a difference in your life when you get up early!

    Saturday, December 17, 2011

    Garlic Bread


    Alhamdulilah I am so excited, I really enjoy making bread it enhances my mornings. I have learned that making bread helps my iman...

    I won't start making bread unless I have made my salat, because I feel as though it is a more blessed experience when I am spiritually caught up in prayers.. also it helps me get up early for prayer, bread making has been a real blessing mashaAllah, so it is much more than cooking, I am spiritually benefit from it mashaAllah :)





    Garlic and Cheese Bread In Under an Hour: Ingredients
    • 2 cups flour 2 teaspoons baking powder
    •  1 cup. cheese
    • 2 tablespoons sugar.
    • 3 teaspoon garlic powder.
    •  ¾ cup milk
    • 2 tablespoons vegetable oil
    • 1 egg





    1. Mix together the flour, sugar, garlic powder and cheese in a large mixing bowl.
    2. Whisk together the vegetable oil with the milk and egg.
    3. Stir the wet mix into the dry ingredients.
    4. Pour the mix into a greased 1lb loaf pan.
    5. Bake in a pre-heated oven at 350°F for 50-60 minutes or until a sharp knife inserted near the middle comes out clean 
    This is bred is so good inshaAllah the next time I will make it even cheesy inshaAllah and this is really good with spaghetti and for lunch on its own. This is another bread the family enjoyed mashaAllah

    Raisin Bread


    Alhamdulilah I made raisin bread the other day, with this very simple and delicious recipe.

    3 ripe bananas
    1/3 c. sugar
    1 1/2 c. all-purpose flour
    1/4 c. milk
    1 egg
    1/2 tsp. baking powder
    1 tsp. baking soda
    2 tbsp. vegetable oil
    1 tbsp. cinnamon
    1/2 c. raisins

    Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Mash bananas with a fork. Add everything but the flour and raisins. Blend on low speed; add flour and raisins. Blend until moist.Pour into a greased loaf pan and bake for 45 minutes.


    This makes for a good morning breakfast with coffee mashaAllah.  The other great thing about this recipe is that it is yeast free. 

    Tuesday, December 13, 2011

    Social Media- 10 Ways to Conduct God Conscious Networking

    By: Ameer Idris and Ameera Rahim

    Day in and day out there is someone posting on Facebook, either they are saying their next move in life, their quote of the day or sharing some link that moved them in some kind of way.

    Often times you will find people conducting in the worst ways on a social networking site such as Facebook or twitter.  Our last Sundays Sister Circle we talked about how we can allow Facebook to be a place to make our marriages and relationships worse. I often say Facebook is what you make it and alhamdulilah it has been such a blessed experience for me and my family, as we use it to help others and help our selves.

    Others make it an outlet to vent their lifes issues, talk about others, and really cause social havoc. Social media should not be used to broadcast marital woes and bash your husband (or anyone else). We have a trust with our spouse and that includes upholding his honor. When we type those words of anger and frustration then click share, we are now telling the whole world about our husbands faults or friends and family, we are showing how we do not respect our husband or others, and thus making the whole family look bad. Now when you have calmed down and everything is back to lovey dovey mode we delete the status message and move on, but those who remember and even responded to what you said about your husband will now look at your husband in a different light and also know what you and your family are going through.

    Social media is a tempting way to put it all out there, don't let social media become Shaytan Media in your life. Facebook MySpace etc all have its advantages and you can truly benefit from it, but for those who do not benefit only cause detriment to themselves and family.

    10 Ways to conduct yourself on Social Networking


    • Think before you type-  So simple yet so hard, before you share that post about your family or husband, ask yourself to what end? what benefit? and what's the use? Chances are you will find that 9 times out of 10 your post will do more harm than good.
    • Intentions- what do you intend behind what you are saying. If you are posting out of anger and frustration than logout and go make wudu, we seem to be quicker to post than we are quicker to pray about it.
    • For better or for worse- Use social networking for the better. Find those ayats and join those hadith a day groups to increase your iman. Then when you run into a marital bump and you log on to vent, you will have a better reason to login you can go get some Divine inspiration and not Shaytanic suggestions. Recite Surah Nas and ask Allah to protect you from the waswas- whispers of Shaytan
    • The scales- Will our post weigh heavily on our good deeds or our bad deeds.  "A slave (of Allah) may utter a word which pleases Allah without giving it much importance, and because of that Allah will raise him to degrees (of reward): a slave (of Allah) may utter a word (carelessly) which displeases Allah without thinking of its gravity and because of that he will be thrown into the Hell-Fire."-Hadith
    • Islam- Believe it or not but others who may or may not be Muslim tend to look at the way people conduct themselves in Islam and use it make decisions about Islam. How are we making Islam look? How are we making our Muslim brother and sisters look? Our actions are dawah, what we say can be dawah and it effects everyone!
    • WWPMD- What would Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salaam do? The ayat in the Quran says "You all certianly have in the Messenger of Allah (salallahu alayhi wa salaam) a really good example to follow  (Surah 33-21) Our Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam displayed the best of conduct and character in all situations "Say if you do love Allah then follow me Allah will (in turn) love you and forgive your sins" Surah 3-31
    • Trust- We have a trust with our husbands (family and friendships) and that includes  how we treat them on the internet and in person. We are to respect our husbands and others, we do not want to fall in category of backbiting and slander which is a major sin that many to be minor. "O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. (Surah Hujraat 49, Ayat 12)
    • Remember the day of grief and regrets- On a day where you can't take back the words you said, we must remember this day will come and alhamdulilah we have today, make this the day to stop and make a plea to Allah to guide us to the best words and actions
    • Keep good company- even online! Some people enjoy fitnah and will be quick to aid you and support your post that may not be the best post. These people will also spread your troubles amongst others and their intent is to talk about the latest gossip. Surround yourself with beautiful sisters that will remind you of Allah and give you true right and Islamic advice.
    • Duaa- If you feel as though you must vent, it's best to vent in the form of a duaa,  for example "May Allah help our wives or husbands to treat their families better as the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam was the best to his family alayhi salaatullah." or "May Allah help our husbands and wives to _________" because of instead of talking about so and so we should pray for them and ourselves.
    Use social media and be socially acceptable in the sight of Allah!

    Sunday, December 11, 2011

    Prophet Lut's wife or The Righteous wife? Where do you fit?

    I was up late tonight, well this morning, it's almost 3 a.m. and was engaged in this great discussion that inspired this article. Looking at women in the past Allah has given us the best of examples and the worst of examples in the wives of the Prophets.

    When I go through my days I think of who I should inspire to be like, and use as my example for betterment ..the wives of our beloved Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam come to mind and then when I think I have to reflect on the opposite the women who act contrary to that  and this ayat comes to mind:

    Surah 66 10Allah sets forth, for an example to the Unbelievers, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of our righteous servants, but they were false to their (husbands), and they profited nothing before Allah on their account, but were told: "Enter ye the Fire along with (others) that enter!"
     
    Are we striving to live a decent and virtuous life or the opposite?

    When our husbands test us, and they will test us, how do we respond? We should respond the way Aisyah responded, with patience and prayer.
    66:11And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: "O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong"


    She asked Allah in her time of need to help and save her, she was patient and did not act opposite in the manner.


    Our husbands are nothing like Pharaoh but we have so little patience with them.  Look at the mothers of the believers, and use them for inspiration. Allah has blessed us with their stores so we can learn from them and use them for our betterment, Allah also gave us stories of Prophet Nuh's wife and Prophet Lut's wife for examples of bad character . "We have sent down Clear Signs to you, the example of those who passed away before you, and an admonition for those who guard against evil" (Surat an-Nur: 34)

     It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: the Messenger of Allah sallahu alayhi wa salaam drew four lines on the ground, then he said, “Do you know what this is?” We said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” The Messenger of Allah salallahu alayhi wa salaam said: “The best of the women of Paradise are Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, Fatimah bint Muhammad, Aasiyah bint Mazaahim the wife of Pharaoh, and Maryam bint ‘Imraan – may Allaah be pleased with them.”- Bukhari 
     We want our husbands to look at us and see good and when they are out working hard for their families, they know they have a wife at home that will comfort them, take care of them, and relieve them when they come home from the matters of the world. The world is faced with many battles and one of them should not be with our spouse.

    Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa salaam always remembered Khadijah tul Kubra (radiAllahu anha) and moaned, "Never did Allah give me a better wife than Khadijah. She hailed my mission at a time when everybody shouted against it. She lent me the support of her conviction when there was hardly a believer. She enlivened my heart when I felt lonely and deserted. Khadijah's love was given to me by Allah (SWT). How could I forget her?"

    What a beautiful hadith of how the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam looked at his first wife Khadijah radiAllahu anha.

    We must also be modest not just in our clothing, but actions as well. 
     Maryam radiAllahu anha was a pure woman and modest, not just in appearance but actions. Our bodies are for our husband and we should protect and guard ourselves against provoking the desires of men that are not our husband.

    And when the angels said: "Maryam, Allah has chosen you and purified you. He has chosen you over all other women. Maryam, obey your Lord and prostrate and bow with those who bow." (Surah Al 'Imran: 42-43)

    Allah gave us beautiful examples and we should be beautiful and follow them, we are blessed to be in a time where we have these stories to reflect on and use them as a means to not go the way of those who were in error

    At the end of the day when we examine our behavior where do we fit?

    Saturday, December 10, 2011

    Delicious Pound Cake

    SubhanAllah, Today I was craving something sweet and alhamdulilah decided to make pound cake! Simple. easy and yummy mashaAllah..it tasted like a oatmeal cookie but hey it was good! I also used wheat flour and not white.

    To make this pound cake I used the following ingredients:


    • 2 Cups Sugar
    • 2 Cups Flour
    • 1/4 Tsp Saltshopping list
    • 1 Tsp baking soda
    • 1 Cup butter, softened
    • 5 eggs
    • 1 1/2 Tsp vanilla extract
    • 1 1/2 Tsp lemon extract
    I replaced the vanilla and lemon with sugar...and because I did not have enough eggs I used flax seed as a substitute.. one teaspoon of flax seed and three teaspoon of water equals one egg, flax is always beneficial in foods and always makes a good egg substitute in my baking.

    After mixing all the ingredients together and then adding the eggs (I had two eggs and made the rest egg substitute) I then put it in the oven at 325 and waited for 60 minutes (or less)

    After that top it with your favorite topping, we had whipped cream mashaAllah and the family loved it
    It was my first time making pound cake and it came out well!!


    Just dhikr when you do it and put a lot of love into it.

    Friday, December 9, 2011

    Home Cooked Meals vs Fast Food

     You are what you eat. Have you heard that before? I am sure you have. Though it is tempting to eat fast food, it is better and wiser to make your own.


    There is hikmah in this. From experience the food made by ahulul dhikr Allah, the people who remember Allah, taste better, its made with the love of Allah and shukr. It is food where those people who made it are in good spirits and they put that energy into the food.


    Nowadays we have Joe and Joanna cook they are making your food at McDonalds KFC etc and cursing and chopping the meat you are about to consume, their dhikr is not of Allah But the dhikr of those who made them mad and which customer ticked them off. Thats the energy that put into your food. They cook in a hurry and make the food so you can get out of line and they can punch out and go home.  Some of them just aren't that mindful of how your energy can even affect your cooking.


    Its called Fast Food, for a reason, they are cooking in haste, which is from who? Shaytan (In some cases.) Then we eat this fast food that was made in heedlessness and we wonder why we dont feel well or feel sluggish. Sometimes food that is fast food is contaminated or made improperly which spreads illnesses like e coli.


     The hikmah in learning to cook your own take out style food is better for your body and spirit. Just saying Shukrun Allah as you cook, subhanAllah and etc is good for your heart and body. Nourishing your soul while feeding your family.

    You are also bettering your cooking skills too subhanAllah! In the 5 years I have been married my cooking skills have gotten better and its financially better too! You save money, instead of buying fast food you buy groceries which last longer and you can buy healthy ingredients. Processed foods lose nutrients and theres many chemical additives. 


    Let us remember:


    “Verily Allah the Exalted is pure. He does not accept but that which is pure. Allah commands the believers with what He commanded the Messengers. Allah the Almighty has said: “O you Messengers! Eat of the good things and act righteously” [23:51-53]. And Allah the Almighty also said: “O you who believe! Eat of the good things that We have provided you with” [2:167-172].
    Then he (the Prophet) mentioned (the case of) the man who, having journeyed far, is dishevelled and dusty and who stretches out his hands to the sky (saying): “O Lord! O Lord!” (while) his food was unlawful, his drink was unlawful, his clothing was unlawful, and he is nourished with unlawful things, so how can he be answered?”



    -Muslim


    We must be mindful of what we put into our bodies and into the bodies of our families. So whats the big deal, we spend more time in the kitchen producing meals made of love and dhikr, and we do this instead of driving up to the window and asking for greasy junk..the time and heart we put into it is worth it.


    Eating healthy and good foods is part of Islam, make it part of your homemaking

    Thursday, December 8, 2011

    Homemade Body Scrubs

    Why pay so much money to buy body scrubs and other facial products when everything you could possibly need for a spa like treatment is right in your kitchen?! MashaAllah always on my to do list, now on my done list is homemade body scrubs :)

    This was soothing to make, alhamdulilah my husband he carries essential oils and other products, so I was able to choose the scent I love, which is frankincense & myrrh! If you are ever in need of great essential oils at a great price, my husband is the one to ask and yes he will send them to you! With any purchase you get something of equal value free. Two for the price of one :)

    Well I decided to make two types, one salt and the other sugar just to feel the difference and see which one I like best.

    I used:
    Essential Oil
    Grapeseed Oil
    Honey
    Crushed Almonds
    Salt or Sugar

    Mix in a container all the ingredients and I did not put the exact measurements because I think it varies to how much you want



    They both came out great inshaAllah I haven't decided which one I like best yet.


    Hadith "“Women and fragrance have been made dear to my affections, but prayer was made the sweetness of my eyes.”

    We should always smell our best for ourselves and our husbands read number  3 and 4: 

    ‘Abd al-Malik (RA) said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umamah came into her, to advise her and said:

    ‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.

    ‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.

    ‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.
    ‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.

    ‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.

    ‘The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.

    ‘The fifth and sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry.

    ‘The seventh and eight of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management.

    ‘The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you.

    ‘Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make him unhappy.

    ‘Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.
    ‘Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah choose what is best for you and protect you.”

    Tuesday, December 6, 2011

    The 1950's Wife- 2011 Wife and the Muslimah Wife

    The 1950-'s wife, she catered to her husband and family. She was true to the proverbs 31 Bible verse that says she is the kind of woman that rises early and that her husband can trust her and she is the kind of woman that takes care of her home and does not eat the bread of idleness. Though many women do noble things, her actions passes them all. It goes on to say: Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears her Lord is the one to be praised.

    There is a list online that I read that have some qualities that the 1950's wives strove for..so I will share a few:



    • Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
    • Be a little happy and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
    • Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
    • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
    • Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
    • Be happy to see him.



    I absolutely love this list and it is so sad that as we are in the year 2011, a lot of women have become the opposite. I have been reading about this 1950's wife and what has changed since then...


    Now not all women today are all that bad, alhamdulilah many of us strive to have the type of relationship that we honor our husband and family and keep Allah in much remembrance, but we must admit times have changed. It has become a "You can't tell me what to do" "I'm a grown woman.." "I don't need you.." "I can do better by myself..." "It's my way or the highway.." kind of mentality for some women..and they will speak to their husbands any kind of way, call the police on them, and say they run the house. SubhanAllah oh how times have changed for these women..pots and pan being thrown, disrespecting manhood and walking out and over our husbands has become acceptable. They stay out all night, and come and go when they feel like it.


    Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you." Sahih Bukhari,


    SubhanAllah what are we finding in today's modern wife? Certainly not ENOUGH behavior that is worthy of Jannah. (SOME cases not all) Thank Allah for being a Muslimah wife, as we have always been taught these ways that the 1950's women were doing... Islam has not changed and our roles as women in Islam have not changed, we must strive to not let the modern way, in its negative forms and influences become part of our life, our homes, and relationships. Alhamdulilah our Beloved Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam told us how important our husbands are and how they are our Jannah or Hellfire. 
    "“ Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: ‘There are three people whose prayers will not be accepted, neither their good works: a disobedient slave until he returns to his masters and puts his hand in theirs; a woman whose husband is angry with her, until he is pleased with her again; and the drunkard, until he becomes sober.’”
    Modern women who do not have these Islamic values, do not value their husbands and do not see the importance of their husbands role in their life. Alhamdulilah though some women who are not Muslim  still live up to the Proverbs 31 mentality and honor their husbands, I have benefited from those words greatly.. .as they remind me even from their Biblical standpoint that these words hold true still in Islam. 
    Alhamdulilah Islam and the words of how we should be to our husbands have not changed, let us not be fooled by society so called liberation. Rumi says once you become a slave to Allah then you are free. We do this all for the pleasure of Allah, it may not be popular with the masses but with Allah is the best reward.

    Sunday, December 4, 2011

    Homemade Glazed Doughnuts

    Alhamdulilah today me, hubby, and the children made glazed doughnuts for the first time. This is a fun and yummy activity the children can take part in.. inshaAllah I will blog about it again later on our homeschooling blog Habeebee Homeschooling.

    The recipe for these yummy doughnuts are:

    2 cups flour
    1 cup water
    1/2 tsp salt
    3 tsp baking powder

    Mix all the ingredients, I measured it and the children poured it all in the bowl and mixed it, we then let them take them out and on a floured board, roll them into balls pat them and then used tops to make the holes in the middle.

    Afterwards me and hubby put them in oil on the stove and cooked them until they became brown, which was pretty quick!

    While hubby did the main tending to the doughnuts, I started the homemade glazed which was made with

    1/4 cup milk
    2 cups sugar
    vanilla


    You cook the vanilla and milk until it is warm then you stir in the sugar until its all gone and then sit to the side... we then dipped the doughnuts in the glaze and put them on the side. When the glaze was cool enough in the bowl we let the children dip them in the glaze too.

    It turned out good mashaAllah! The whole family enjoyed it.

    Saturday, December 3, 2011

    Simple Chicken Noodle Soup and Bread

    Alhamdulilah I made bread again, and it turned out great mashaAllah! I was also craving chicken noodle soup, and being stuffy and sneezy with a cold, felt like it was a must today!

    "There is blessing in three things: in the early morning meal, in bread and in soup."- a saying of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam


    I started making the bread at the same time as the soup, so I can have them both together!


    Soup:
    Chicken
    Chicken Bouillon (4)
    Water (8 cups)
    Seasonings
    Garlic, Onion
    Veggies (optional)
    Noodles


    Cook the water with chicken and chicken bouillon until the chicken becomes tender ..I added the garlic and onion with it at the same time. After the chicken is done ..add the noodles and cook until the noodles are done.


    I also made dumplings with this


    Dumplings:
    Flour (1 1/2 cups)
    Milk (3/4 cup)
    Salt (3/4 tsp)
    Shortening (3 tbs)
    Baking Powder (1 tbs)


    Mix flour, salt,baking powder add shortening and mix until it looks like crumbs ..add milk and mix but do not over mix..then use a spoon and drop them into the stew 10 mins uncovered and 10 mins covered


    I had bread today and you can read my blog post about how to make bread: My homemade bread

    Alhamdulilah the family enjoyed it. Soup is so good on these cold days.

    Monday, November 28, 2011

    Reflections- A Mothers Advice

    Abd al-Malik (RA) said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most 

    highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married
    his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to
    be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umamah came into her, to advise her
    and said:

    ‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice
    because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been
    unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve
    as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.

    ‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of
    her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people
    would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men
    just as men were created for them.

    ‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where
    you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion
    to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over
    you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.

    ‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for
    you.

    ‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to
    and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and
    obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.

    ‘The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look
    good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell
    anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of
    beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume.

    ‘The fifth and sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet
    when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing
    his sleep will make him angry.

    ‘The seventh and eight of them are: take care of his servants (or employees)
    and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth
    shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants
    shows good management.

    ‘The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and
    never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you
    will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his
    heart will be filled with hatred towards you.

    ‘Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset,
    and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former
    shows a lack of judgment whilst the latter will make him unhappy.

    ‘Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much
    as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.

    ‘Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until
    you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in
    whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah choose what is best for you and
    protect you.”

    Sunday, November 27, 2011

    Homemaking Beyond Our Homes

    After obligatory rites, the action most beloved to Allah is delighting other Muslims.”  -Hadith 


    This hadith was a test for me this past week. We went to family and friends homes for a visit and before we went, I spent much time asking Allah to make me of a benefit when I visit them and not be a burden.  Sometimes I can be distant and keep to myself because of my shyness, but this does not help me benefit others, even though I actually thought it did.


    One important reminder my husband gave me years ago is that when you go to someone else's home you want to be a benefit and also leave things better than how you found it. I looked back at my past visits and realized I could strive to be a better servant to my friends and family.


    I used this weekend to implement that. Have you ever had a friend that came to your home, and they ate, left a mess, and did not offer to help out? Or have you ever been that person? SubhanAllah I realized that being a blessing in someones home is as important as being a blessing in your own home.


    Who invites people back to their home if they create additional mess to the mess you already have to clean up? 
    Makes me think of the following hadith: 


    The most beloved of people according to Allāh is he who brings most benefit, and the most beloved of deeds according to Allāh the Mighty, the Magnificent, is that you bring happiness to a fellow Muslim, or relieve him of distress, or pay off his debt or stave away hunger from him. It is more beloved to me that I walk with my brother Muslim in his time of need than I stay secluded in the mosque for a month. Whoever holds back his anger, Allāh will cover his faults and whoever suppresses his fury while being able to execute it, Allāh will fill his heart with satisfaction on the Day of Standing. Whoever walks with his brother Muslim in need until he establishes that for him, Allāh will establish his feet firmly on the day when all feet shall slip. Indeed, bad character ruins deeds just as vinegar ruins honey.” (Tabarāni, Hasan)"


    Rumi once said people want you to be pleasant, don't keep serving them your pain.   So we should go to other's homes to brighten it , not bring fitnah and worries. Bring gifts if we can and not stress.


    Allah says in the Quran:





              Serve Allah And Associate None With Him. Show Kindness To Your Parents And Kinsfolk, And To The Orphans, To The Needy, To Your Near And Distant Neighbors, To Your Fellow‑Travelers, To The Wayfarer, And To What Your Right Hands Possess: For Allah Loves Not The Arrogant And Haughty Men.
    (Surah  4:  Ayah  36)

    When we visit others from now on lets strive to bring much barakah into the homes and be the neighbor (vister) we would like to have in our own homes.