Thursday, February 21, 2013

Keeper Of The Doormat

SubhanAllah, needed to come on tonight and share a few thoughts and realized I have not been the best at updating this blog.

Though we have added a few videos on our youtube channel. InshaAllah that has been a blessing. I'm quite shy but it does not appear that way

 First I want to say alhamdulilah this domestic darling was sent a beautiful apron from Umm Ayana of Ummi's House mashaAllah she has been such a blessing in my life!

A new apron is a wonderful feeling, my husband lovingly says "Some heroes tie their capes around their waist" <3 I think that is super cool

Well on my heart and mind tonight is thoughts of when someone called me a doormat. Yes a doormat...what should be and appear as a beautiful way to live-- happily homemaking, has sparked some unkind words at times. By no means am I a doormat, but I am keeper of the doormat. My duty is to keep away unwanted people and matters from entering our home and to also be welcoming and inviting to loved ones, friends and community.

Yes I am the keeper of the doormat and all else that I have been entrusted with,  and I have been entrusted by my husband to take care of our home and children. Alhamdulilah a position I will not complain about and it is one I am honored to be in. Alhamdulilah and so this is how Allah has made it.

Alhamdulilah it is taking me some time to realize and practice this: just because it may not be socially acceptable does not mean it's not acceptable to Allah. By far this is more important than the comments of those who do not appreciate the beautiful role of homemaking and the blessing it offers.



We are not to be walked on but we walk into the lives of others to be a delight, of service and kindness. No stepping on us... we step up our homemaking to a higher purpose...we do not abuse others or take abuse... but practice peace and positivity.... and give what we wish to receive as long as it pleases Allah


What I can do is offer much duaa for those who see homemakers as doormats and realize we are keepers of the doormat

Friday, February 1, 2013

Renewing Our Marriage: Marriage Vision Statement

We are working on our renewing our marriage.

We sat down and wrote our marriage vision statement.

What is a marriage vision statement? It's how we see our marriage, what we intend to do and fulfill ... then we add an ayat or hadith to solidify our purpose. Also a reminder that this is what Allah wants from us.




Our marriage vision statement:

We are committed helpers to each other
We resolve to keep Allah in our relationship
We are to support each other
We are not to be difficult
We are here to serve each other
We pray for each other
We pray together

We added the following hadith to make firm our vision, and remind us this is what Allah would be pleased with:

Prophet Muhammad sallAllahu alayhi wa salaam said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects: a man is the guardian of his family and is responsible for his subjects, a woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and of his children and is responsible for them. Surely, everyone of you is a shepherd and responsible for his flock.”-- Hadith

Aisha - may Allah be pleased with her- said that whenever Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam had to choose between things he chose the easier way he did not chose the difficult way-- Sahih Bukhari

 "If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers."-- Prophet Mmuhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam in his last khutbah


So... here we are, our vision for our marriage is in front of us, we can see it clearly, and we are praying it will remind us of what we are looking for from each other and what we should give from ourselves too. You cannot expect something of your spouse and are not giving it.

I want my husband to be supportive and helpful, and I have to remind myself I should be the same as well.

 In prayers that we will grow in our marriage, our children will benefit, our society and more importantly our Lord is pleased, and we did not make the Devil happy, auothbillah!