Tuesday, May 22, 2012

The Islamic Art Of Being Lady Like

In this society, the more outspoken you are the more "real" you are. If you can say what's on your mind and not care who hears it and how it was said, then you are being "real".  Which is in reality, being real rude, crude, and reckless, which is real unGodly. On our social media forums, it seems that some of us ladies are not taking in consideration our tongues, minds, and hands subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah sometimes we are not thinking twice before we type.

Have you ever heard of the term loose cannon? Well, being loose is not lady like. Loose in speech, loose in actions.. is losing it-- losing our womanhood, depreciating it. Many "new aged" women would not appreciate this type of post, since they appreciate whats worldly acceptable and unGodly, and often depreciate what Islam says.

What happened to being lady like? Where we would not dare speak about certain subjects in a detail, crude, and vulgar manner?

As Muslimah women we should always mind how we speak, act, and converse with others.

The Islamic art of being lady like takes self discipline, self knowledge, and working towards self mastery.

Those who have achieved this and are working towards it do not do the following:

We do not curse... Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "A believer is not a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene."
Cursing is not attractive...it's not lady like and not part of Islam. Lips that keep the dhikr of Allah and not the words of obscenity are the lips that bring Angels :) alhamdulilah

We do not make public our private intimate matters with our spouses. Theres a hadith that teaches, "The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the man who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret." and this would apply to men and women. SubhanAllah if we are having issues in matters of the bedroom we should discuss that only with the party involved..our spouse and when doing so it should be done with finesse and tact, and that's a whole other blog post!

We should avoid gossip, the devil gives you work to do if you do not keep yourself busy. Women who are often not partaking in memorizing Quran, listening to or attending Islamic classes, or are in the company of positive God fearing people could end up on the gossip train. The Prophet salAllahu alayhi wa salaam said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said "Allah and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger  of Allah said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him."- Muslim
And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah, verily, Allah is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." (49: 12)

We are mindful of our inward and outward hijab. Hijab is more than what we wear but it is also how we act. When around non mahram men, we are extra mindful of our voice and carry ourselves in a respectable manner. 
We dress in clothing that is not tight and shows off of skin alhamdulilah we dress in hijab in the way that is prescribed in Islam.

Lets be mindful of the Islamic art of being lady like, and remember that Allah is ever aware of what we do, and that on the day of judgment we will be called to account for every matter

If we do not keep our devils/ jinns chained up..then with them we will be off the chain! 

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Classy Feminine Homemaking

I read this wonderful article on homemaking and adding personal touches to enhance your homemaking attire. I must admit pearls and an apron are classy, but I do not own any pearls! Besides, I wanted something different and special. A friend of mine on facebook crochets and she made these wonderful hijab pins. (Aqilah Crochet)

I bought a few, looking to update my homemaking and hijab attire. MashaAllah they came in the mail and added so much beauty and feminine class to my every day look. While they weren't pearls, they were much better mashaAllah. Beautiful handmade flowers in beautiful colors. I put my hair up, put on my apron and clipped the flower in my hair. I personally felt like the prettiest homemaker ever, I didn't look frumpy and messy while cleaning. I looked fantastic and classy while cleaning mashaAllah...at least thats how I felt!

If you are ever bored with your homemaking, add extra to it. I find that sisters who go the extra mile, get extra excited about homemaking and those who don't usually won't.

You can get bored day in and day out doing the same thing, the same way, and it can then become lifeless, and not so...exciting

It's amazing what one little crochet flower can do, a pretty apron (homemade), and changing the style of your hair can do for you and for your family. MashaAllah the children and hubby loved it and it was nice to do something different

In our homemaking we should make it exciting ..try new meals the whole week, decorate, make desserts you never tried before and watch how you feel afterwards.

Changing up my look a little, did a lot for me mashaAllah. I love my flowers and wear them every time I go out and often times when I am in the house.

How do you add class to your homemaking? Is it a pair of earrings, how you wear your hair, or the kind of clothes you wear? If you don't then inshaAllah it would be really good to do something new.

First time babywearing (DIY)

Alhamdulilah it's been awhile since I have posted. MashaAllah with the newest addition to our family here, we have been slightly busier and adjusting to new schedules and just bonding. Recently I was looking for a baby carrier. I saw some really nice looking ones such as the moby wrap and while all the colors were cool and bright, there were a few problems I had that stopped me from buying them:

1.) Too expensive
2.) Didn't appear convenient
3.) Looked uncomfortable for my back

Granted I did not buy the wrap, I read a lot of reviews from people who have and even if number 3 was not a factor, I knew number 2 would be a real issue. I could not imagine being outside, then nursing the baby and having to unwrap a lot of fabric and then needing help to redo it.

On the TMH facebook page (www.facebook.com/traditionalmuslimah) a wonderful friend and sister in Islam Umm Haya of Fulltime Muslim Mommies and Wives suggested using a bed sheet. I thought that was interesting so I looked it up online and found a video on how to do it with a bed sheet.

Alhamdulilah I was going to go out and buy a sheet LOL but Allah is so Merciful, my husband had this wonderful fabric that he uses for a turban in the house. It is stretchy, long, and it was just right mashaAllah. Also helped that it made me think of him :)
Even though it is black it works perfectly for babywearing mashaAllah.  So after cleaning it and measuring it out...I tried it on the baby and he was comfortable, close to my heart and happy

We just saved a little more than 40.00 dollars and it feels comfy, and good for me and Tahleel. Simply by draping it over my shoulder and tying a slip knot (that helps you adjust the tightness) I had my very own baby carrier mashaAllah (see video: http://magiccityslingers.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/how-to-carry-a-baby-in-a-bed-sheet-or-shawl-or-rebozo-or-shorty/)

Now with my first time officially babywearing... I already ran into so do's and don't's in regards to summer time babywearing. One if you can help it... Do not use black, in my case, this fabric is breathable, stretchy, and very good for now! Do wear light colors and put light colors on the baby, especially if you are using a black carrier. Do dress in cool outfits, light fabric, nothing too bulky. I have a habit of wearing over coats even in the summer so I had to not do that (obviously right ;) and do enjoy it!