Thursday, June 20, 2013
and if you like: rosemary oil (I did not have any)
Blend oatmeal until its like flour, we used the Ninja blender to get a good consistency with the oatmeal
Mix together oatmeal w.ith coconut oil, because coconut oil solidifies when it's cold, make sure to leave it out at room temp, add olive oil and mix all together. After we mixed everything up we put it in the fridge so it can harden and proceed to use. It feels very good!!
Why Oatmeal? Oatmeal has been used by our family for rashes and other skin ailments. Oatmeal when turned into a powder is known as colloidal oatmeal ... oatmeal is said to be anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, anti-itch!
Coconut Oil: Antimicrobial ..it is said to have properties that fight fungal infections, keeps skin soft and promotes healing.. has anti inflammatory properties and moisturizes the skin.
Olive Oil: it penetrates deep into the skin and softens it. Olive oil is said to reduce inflammation and is natural, gentle and is said to hydrate skin.
There you have it!!! InshaAllah it will help others with eczema and dry skin. Use it as much as you like, its all natural made with 100% pure ingredients alhamdulilah!
Also I have read, in researching about eczema is that the key to helping eczema and preventing it is keeping the body hydrated, outside and inside. The creams used is half the part and the other half is keeping hydrated. SubhanAllah, I pray it helps other families, may Allah heal us all and make it a means of purification ameen!
After speaking in Philly alhamdulilah a few weeks later I turned 30 years old subhanAllah! My husband and I are reaching 7 years in our marriage.
And so I decided to blog about 7 things I have learned about marriage
1.) Keep God First- We live as if we see Allah and even though we don't we know He sees all that we do. In 7 years of marriage there has been plenty of test and hardships but as Allah promises, there was always ease and when we remember His words and keep in constant duaa for His help and guidance we all need in our marriages then it makes life easier. Asking Allah for strength and direction in our marital matters, when making big decisions and little decisions is a must.
"Oh you who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance and prayer, for God is with those who patiently persevere." (2:153)
Some days you may feel at the end of your rope, but when you are holding on to the rope of Allah it's never at the end.
2.) Committed Helpers- The Prophet SalAllahu alayhi wa salaam said it, we are their committed partners and helpers. In 7 years I had to learn what did committed mean. Committed means to be devoted to someone like in a relationship subhanAllah we are devoted to helping we are devoted to being their partners. When we married our spouses we said we are committed to being their help their partner their completion of half their deen...marriage subhanAllah.
"Treat them well and be kind to them for they are your committed partners and commited helpers." -Prophet Muhammad
3.) Love Yourself- Yes love yourself enough to relax, refresh and rejuvenate. 7 years married, 4 boys, 1 Ameera and I learned I'm not giving my best if I'm not at my best or feeling my best. There were days where I had to tag out and allow my husband to wrap up the day because I may have been too tired or needed a moment. Either way for your health, mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally love yourself enough to just take a moment, sometimes 10 minutes is enough and sometimes a day is enough. Find the time to visit friends and have some sisterhood time. Loving myself to really take care of myself helps my mariage. Exercising to feel good, tone up etc only improves your self esteem and confidence around your spouse.
4.) Communication- I learned that my husband did not have the special ability to read my mind. LOL Did it really take me 7 years to figure that out? Well men are not mind readers, they don't have special psychic abilities. They ...like the rest of us, need clear communication. No subtitles, no underlined meaning, no opposite of what was said... only clear communication.
Believers! Have consciousness of Allah and say ‘qawlan sadeeda‘ (33:70) Qawlan Sadeeda is speech that is clear...straight ..that is true..proper and appropriate. We ... a team have to be clear where we stand together on discipline, teaching, how we handle disagreements, child rearing, and more. The only way we can be clear is if we properly communicate.
5.) Don't sweat the small stuff- not everything is a cause to argue, not everything is meant to be offensive and some things are not worth fussing about
6.) Don't be touch deprived- never let the days go by without touching. Hold hands, pat on the back, hug, kiss, snuggle, touch is important....when the days are tough, that comforting touch says so much and also works to motivate a person to keep going. I make sure to not deprive my husband of the joy of touching, whether we high five or give each other big hugs, it makes our hearts closer.
7.) Keep spending time together- first comes marriage then all the babies! Babies are a blessing but don't forget the one you had them with. In 7 years I learned the importance of being in each others company. Whether I am asking him about his work or he is helping me bake bread...we are together...spending quality time, making memories and building our relationship. Alhamdulilah!!! Make each moment enjoyable ...even if its taking long walks together or cooking together.
Alhamdulilah I am looking forward to the many years to come. I'm truly happy and blessed to be married to my match made in jannah.