Saturday, December 7, 2013

DIY: Homemade Honey Barakah Drops

Alhamdulilah I have been sharing on Traditional Muslimah Homemaker about DoTerra Essential oils and how much we enjoy them mashaAllah. I saw this awesome recipe using one of my favorites!!! Good timing too as so many are getting sick, subhanAllah may Allah heal them all and protect us ameen ameen

One of my favorite oils from DoTerra is Onguard. MashaAllah I was given this oil as a gift from a friend.

Why do I love it?

Well that particular oil is a combination of different oils, all helping that combat against colds, the flu. and known to kill harmful bacteria and mold.

And yes you can take these oils internally, naturally everyone should research more, ask questions, consult those you may need to and determine for oneself. This is not to take the place of medical advice but offer and suggest different aids in healing mashaAllah

So are you ready to make these awesome cough drops?

You will need:

2 cups sugar, we used pure sugar cane
1/4 cup butter or ghee
1/2 cup honey
1/2 cup water

And 3-5 drops of DoTerra's Onguard

You combine all the ingredients EXCEPT the Onguard in a pot and cook on low near medium heat, until it reaches a hard crack stage, thats about 300 degrees

Heres my thermometer :

It tells you when the food is at hard crack stage, but if you dont have this type just know its 300 degrees

During the process, you can place a spoon of it in cold water and it threads then you stop it.
I waited until it reached hard crack stage then I stopped it, let it cool for a minute and then added the doterra oil to it.
After that I poured the honey onto a greased cookie sheet. Once I could handle it, i begin to twist them like ropes
Then after twisting them like ropes, . and then I quickly begin to cut them (because remember it gets hard quick as it cools )


And they were yummy, but of course we stored them in a ziploc bag and intend to use them sparingly inshaAllah.

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Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Essential Oil Of The Week: Frankincense

Alhamdulilah I have been using essential oils for a short time, but alhamdulilah I was recently introduced to doTerra essential oils by two beautiful sisters.

Well once my family started to use them we have been enjoying them. SubhanAllah the smells are amazing plus the benefits! 

So why should you use frankinscense:

It is said to: Provides Upper Respiratory Relief. Frankincense oil can help reduce upper respiratory symptoms caused by the common cold and bronchitis. Its antidepressant, anti-inflammatory, and antiseptic properties help to relax breathing passages and boost the immune system. Add a few drops to a bath, facial steam tent, or use as a massage oil for soothing relief. In addition to relieving the symptoms of a cold, frankincense oil can be used to disinfect a room.  (always research and talk to your doctor)

I totally love frankincense, as my husband says its a God sent heavenly scent mashaAllah and it truly works. I have used it to help reduce upper respiratory symptoms. It worked quickly subhanAllah alhamdulilah I felt instant relief, what a blessing from Allah alhamdulilah! What a great way to kick off our essential oil of the week.

A hadith I've read:    
Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salam was reported to have said "Fumigate your houses with Lubaan (Frankincense) and Sa'atar (Thyme)" It was also reported that once a man complained to Ali radiAllahu anhu that he forgets and Ali's radiAllahu anhu response was, "Resort to the Lubaan (Frankincense), because it strengthens the heart and removes forgetfulness".

Are you ready to try frankincense essential oil in your home and on your body? Do you use it already? and if so, what do you use it for? You can make many things at home using frankincense:
Make an all purpose cleaner adding frankincense, and its a good addition to homemade toothpaste too

For coughs and breathing: Add a drop to steaming water, place a towel over your head and inhale until the steam stops. Also massage soles of the feet, I did this with the children and husband when they were not feeling well. Or rub very little behind the ears.

They say for balance, open the bottle and smell frankincense essential oil whenever you're feeling overwhelmed. Diffuse in the room if you have a diffuser

 You can order frankincense from: Our DoTerra Store

InshaAllah next week we will discuss
Melaleuca Essential Oil also known more as Tea Tree Oil !!!

Friday, November 22, 2013

As salamu alaykum To The Tired Mama

To the tired mama,

May Allah bless you for all that you are doing. When you think no one sees your struggles, Allah does. When you think no one hears your cries at night, Allah hears. When you think you are alone, Allah is always there.

You're not the only one who wants to cry when things can feel too much. Dishes on constant rotation, children screaming without hesitation, and you're ready to run..who cares the destination!

We understand how you feel, and from one mother to another your loving work is not in vain. There is much good in all that you do. When our children are older, and on their own, it is your teachings that they take with them. It is your love, nourishment, and sacrifices that help them to be who they are. Trust me, it is and will be appreciated. Allah has blessed us in this beautiful role, and it is a honor, but with this honor, there will be sleepless nights, tears, worry, and sometimes stress, but I also know, that with this honor comes love, laughter, happiness, and hugs. The good in this outweighs the not so good moments, but theres lessons in all of this. Lessons for you  and for your family.

Be easy on yourself and take a moment to rest, refresh and pray. Prayer changes your heart, your life and ask Allah for guidance. Don't feel bad because everything is not done, we are not perfect, take your time and do as much as you can without overdoing it. You cannot give your best if you are not at your best, and a little does go a long way.

Tired mama this homemaker is sending a special prayer and hug your way. I ask that you remember these few things:

Our blessed job, serves humanity.. we are working to send God conscious, loving, kind, and productive people into society (praying their good works and lessons be a means for them to enter jannah) and that will take some loving work.

You can do this... some days are rough but Allah knows, things could be worse, remember be grateful

Pray.... stop and make duaa, focus in your prayer and ask Allah to renew your strength

Remember: You are a blessing
----- Ameera

Team Rahim Family Traditions

Alhamdulilah it has been some time since I have updated my wonderful friends here on Traditional Muslimah Homemaker. Our family, having since moved to Georgia, we started canning together as a family mashaAllah.
We all take time to wash fruits, clean jars, and can them. The children have grown in love with making jams mashaAllah. Not only is it the start of our family tradition, it's also our family business. Selling our jams locally and online, we wanted to share our jams with others. MashaAllah alhamdulilah the feedback has been wonderful. We had our first sell not too long ago and our family was super excited.

It is important for my husband and I to teach the children through traditions. Not only are we creating memories by baking bread together, canning food, and making our own products. We are teaching them skills they will pass down to their children inshaAllah and teach their wives. Skills such as:

Good health: they are leaning that its better to make it at home and its healthier. There are so many products on the market, full of junk, GMOs, artificial things that we want the children to know it's a better ways to do things.

Bonding: They are learning the importance of family. We call ourselves Team Rahim, and it may sound cute but we want the children to know the true meaning of being a team, being a family, and how we stregthen our bonds by working together.

Problem Solving Skills: Sometimes we may not agree on certian things and in working together sometimes there will be conflicts. It's important to give them the tools to appropriately resolve problems with others, when working with others, and when we feel there is a problem... how to speak up, in a respectful, polite way.

Alhamdulilah we learned so much about each other by working together. I'm happy that Allah has blessed us to start these traditions. Baking bread, cooking together, canning and more. Its one of my joys as a mother to pass on skills the children will be able to benefit from and so on alhamdulilah. What traditions does your family do? What would you like to start?

--- Ameera

Saturday, September 7, 2013

Natural Wood Polish and Cleaner

I was at my friends house cleaning the floor and wanted to share this natural wood cleaner and polish. All natural and with the refreshing scent of lemon oil.

Wood Cleaner: 
1/2 cup white vinegar
 1 gallon of warm water 
2-3 drops essential oils-- I used doTerra Lemon

Wood Polish:
30 drops lemon essential oil
1/3 cup coconut oil or grapeseed oil
1/2 cup (4 ounces) distilled water

I put them in smaller bottles. \We labeled the tops and the floors smell so lemon fresh !!! MashaAllah my favorite smell

Sunday, September 1, 2013

Holistic Homemaking

Pregnancy aches and pains, from lower back pain to round ligament pain, I have experienced both during my pregnancies and now with baby 6 on the way (please make duaa for safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery), we decided to do a natural method for dealing with it. I made a nice rice compress. I mixed rice with my favorite essential oil,  you can pick any kind you want, I enjoy the smell of lemongrass .. ginger oil smells good and lavender too. I sewed my fabric together first, leaving the top open to pour the rice in and then sewed it shut.

 I sewn it together by hand mashaAllah and you can either put it in the microwave and make it hot or put it in the freezer and make it cold. It does not have to be in the microwave for a long time. The essential oil smells wonderful and relaxing while taking care of the pain, remember to say bismillah and always remember that Allah is the Ultimate Healer so saying the duaa for healing and using these methods have helped me so far during this pregnancy alhamdulilah

Natural Homemade Air Freshener

Okay I have been hearing and reading about commercial air fresheners not being safe for the environment and our bodies.
A few chemicals inside some of the air fresheners:
  • BHT - Known as a neurotoxin, endocrine disruptor, immunotoxicity, non-reproductive organ system toxicity, skin eye and lung irritator
  • Acetaldehyde - Known to cause cancer, toxic to reproduction and development, immunotoxin, non-reproductive organ system toxin, skin, eye and lung irritator
  • "Fragrance" - One of the three ingredients actually disclosed, it's a neurotoxin, immunotoxin and allergen
  • Propylene Glycol - Causes cancer, allergies, toxic to immune system, accumulates in the system, non-reproductive organ system toxin, is classified with "enhanced skin absorption" and irritates the skin, eye and lung
  • 1,3-Dichloro-2-propanol - Carcinogenic (causes cancer)
  • Limonene - Allergen, immunotoxin and skin, eyes and lung irritator
  • Methyl pyrrolidone - Toxin to reproduction and development, allergen and immunotoxin, non-reproductive organ system toxin and skin, eyes and lung irritator
  • Alcohol denatured - Also disclosed in the ingredients of Febreze, it's linked to cancer, developmental/reproductive toxicity, organ system toxicity and skin, eyes and lung irritator
  • Butylphenyl methylpropion al - allergen, immunotoxin and and skin, eyes and lung irritator

So subhanAllah its just safer to make our own natural alternative! I love the idea of using essential oils and decided to do lavender as it is known to have a calming affect. I really enjoyed the smell and so did my family. I also sprayed on the fabric  like curtains etc

Mix baking soda and oil first
Then pour in the bottle using a funnel
after that add the water and shake it... enjoy!!

Thursday, June 20, 2013

DIY Eczema Cream

Eczema cream that helps skin.
Made With:

Olive Oil
Coconut Oil
and if you like: rosemary oil (I did not have any)

Blend oatmeal until its like flour, we used the Ninja blender to get a good consistency with the oatmeal

Mix together oatmeal w.ith coconut oil, because coconut oil solidifies when it's cold, make sure to leave it out at room temp, add olive oil and mix all together. After we mixed everything up we put it in the fridge so it can harden and proceed to use. It feels very good!!

Why Oatmeal? Oatmeal has been used by our family for rashes and other skin ailments. Oatmeal when turned into a powder is known as colloidal oatmeal ... oatmeal is said to be anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, anti-itch!

Coconut Oil: Antimicrobial is said to have properties that fight fungal infections, keeps skin soft and promotes healing.. has anti inflammatory properties and moisturizes the skin.

Olive Oil:  it penetrates deep into the skin and softens it. Olive oil is said to reduce inflammation and is natural, gentle and is said to hydrate skin.

There you have it!!! InshaAllah it will help others with eczema and dry skin. Use it as much as you like, its all natural made with 100% pure ingredients alhamdulilah!

Also I have read, in researching about eczema is that the key to helping eczema and preventing it is keeping the body hydrated, outside and inside. The creams used is half the part and the other half is keeping hydrated. SubhanAllah, I pray it helps other families, may Allah heal us all and make it a means of purification ameen!

7 Things I've Learned About Marriage

Alhamdulilah it has been a few months since I've done some blogging! Between homeschool, conferences and moving-- things have been hectic! But alhamdulilah it has all been a blessing. In May we went to Philadelphia for the Natural Birth Natural Body Conference and gave two talks there, one was on cloth diapers and the other on public schooling. I really enjoyed the two day event and met some lovely women there who shared a common interest in natural living!

After speaking in Philly alhamdulilah a few weeks later I turned 30 years old subhanAllah! My husband and I are reaching 7 years in our marriage.

And so I decided to blog about 7 things I have learned about marriage

1.) Keep God First- We live as if we see Allah and even though we don't we know He sees all that we do. In 7 years of marriage there has been plenty of test and hardships but as Allah promises, there was always ease and when we remember His words and keep in constant duaa for His help and guidance we all need in our marriages then it makes life easier. Asking Allah for strength and direction in our marital matters, when making big decisions and little decisions is a must.
"Oh you who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance and prayer, for God is with those who patiently persevere." (2:153)

Some days you may feel at the end of your rope, but when you are holding on to the rope of Allah it's never at the end.

2.) Committed Helpers-  The Prophet SalAllahu alayhi wa salaam said it, we are their committed partners and helpers. In 7 years I had to learn what did committed mean. Committed means to be devoted to someone like in a relationship subhanAllah we are devoted to helping we are devoted to being their partners. When we married our spouses we said we are committed to being their help their partner their completion of half their deen...marriage subhanAllah.
 "Treat them well and be kind to them for they are your committed partners and commited helpers." -Prophet Muhammad

3.) Love Yourself- Yes love yourself enough to relax, refresh and rejuvenate. 7 years married, 4 boys, 1 Ameera and I learned I'm not giving my best if I'm not at my best or feeling my best. There were days where I had to tag out and allow my husband to wrap up the day because I may have been too tired or needed a moment. Either way for your health, mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally love yourself enough to just take a moment, sometimes 10 minutes is enough and sometimes a day is enough. Find the time to visit friends and have some sisterhood time. Loving myself to really take care of myself helps my mariage. Exercising to feel good, tone up etc only improves your self esteem and confidence around your spouse.

4.) Communication- I learned that my husband did not have the special ability to read my mind. LOL Did it really take me 7 years to figure that out? Well men are not mind readers, they don't have special psychic abilities. They the rest of us, need clear communication. No subtitles, no underlined meaning, no opposite of what was said... only clear communication.

Believers! Have consciousness of Allah and say ‘qawlan sadeeda‘ (33:70)  Qawlan Sadeeda is speech that is clear...straight ..that is true..proper and appropriate.  We ... a team have to be clear where we stand together on discipline, teaching, how we handle disagreements, child rearing, and more. The only way we can be clear is if we properly communicate.

5.) Don't sweat the small stuff- not everything is a cause to argue, not everything is meant to be offensive and some things are not worth fussing about

6.) Don't be touch deprived- never let the days go by without touching. Hold hands, pat on the back, hug, kiss, snuggle, touch is important....when the days are tough, that comforting touch says so much and also works to motivate a person to keep going. I make sure to not deprive my husband of the joy of touching, whether we high five or give each other big hugs, it makes our hearts closer.

7.) Keep spending time together- first comes marriage then all the babies! Babies are a blessing but don't forget the one you had them with. In 7 years I learned the importance of being in each others company. Whether I am asking him about his work or he is helping me bake bread...we are together...spending quality time, making memories and building our relationship. Alhamdulilah!!! Make each moment enjoyable ...even if its taking long walks together or cooking together.

Alhamdulilah I am looking forward to the many years to come. I'm truly happy and blessed to be married to my match made in jannah.

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Homemade Deodorant

I've been wanting to make deodorant for a long time mashaAllah. The commercial deodorants are bad for us and I have been looking for just the right homemade deodorant with easily assessable materials. 

Here is a simple deodorant that I personally believes works well, it did not stain my shirts, and smells good

Equal parts

Baking Soda and Cornstarch (arrowroot if you have it)
add Coconut Oil until it reaches a consistency you like
5 drops of tea tree oil.. or a cap full

It was simple and it works. I lined our muffin tin with muffin liners and put them in the fridge to solidify alhamdulilah mashaAllah and it came out great! I then put them in ziploc bags , labeled them and put them in the freezer or fridge, Only because with the weather getting warmer, coconut oil will turn back to a liquid. I have no problems getting mine out the fridge and putting it back in its bag after showers.

"“Women and fragrance have been made dear to my affections, but prayer was made the sweetness of my eyes.”-- Prophet Muhammad SalAllahu alayhi wa salaam

Homemade Bread Recipe and Making Bread In A Crockpot

Alhamdulilah spring is here and summer is approaching. Sometimes sisters do not like to bake much bread in the summer because the oven makes the whole place extra hot!

Which is understandable, I usually make cooler foods in the summer... lots of salads,  tuna fish etc and fruit salads. My family really enjoys it mashaAllah and there are days where being over a hot stove in the heat can be a bit unappealing! So I learned recently how to bake bread in a crockpot.

In the past I would let my bread rise in the crockpot, even preheating it prior to placing the bread in. There is a setting on our crockpot that has a warm selection. While I am mixing and kneading, the crockpot is being warmed for the bread to rise in. After I am doing I turn the crockpot off and let it rise inside, on top of parchment paper. After a hour f rising time ...Then turning the crockpot on low I let the bread cook inside for 1 and half hours.

If you do not mind the shape of the finished product it will make a good bread mashaAllah! I don't mind the oval shape, neither do the children. I read this no knead recipe online and after mixing it you dont have to knead it, just let it rise.

No knead bread recipe on the link is where I also read about how to make bread in a crockpot:

  • 1 tablespoon (1 packet) yeast
  • 2 tablespoons sugar
  • 1/4 teaspoon sea salt
  • 1 1/2 cups flour
  • 1/2 cup boiling hot water
  • 1 tablespoon oil

  1. Add yeast, sugar, salt, and flour to a food processor fitted with a blade attachment.
  2. Process on low for 1 minute.
  3. Slowly add water, then oil.
  4. Process until dough is no longer sticking to sides, and forms a ball.
  5. Remove dough, form into ball.
  6. Place in greased bowl and cover with a towel.  Let rise in a warm place for about 45 minutes, or until doubled in size.  Recipe from:  No knead bread recipe
Since I do not have the food processor I just mixed everything as usual mashaAllah alhamdulilah
I let mine rise in the crockpot and then after it rise I follow the next step of turning it on low and letting it cook for 1 and 1/2 hours.

Foods that you may want to make in the summer time:

Fruit Salads
Pasta Salads
Vegetable Salad
Tuna Fish Sandwiches
Vegetable Wraps
Vegetable Tacos

What could you add?

If you use the stove or oven it's best to do it early in the morning when it is cooler out. Your crockpot is your best friend too!! It does not make the house hot and you can cook your dinners in there that you would normally cook on top of the stove

Crockpot recipes: Slow Cooker Meals

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Love,d Cloth Diapers- Review, Thoughts, and Diapers

Alhamdulilah it's good to have some time this morning to write up a blog post. I have been busy with our move and homeschooling alhamdulilah but I'm excited to talk about our latest product review on Love,d cloth diapers.

Why are we using cloth diapers? 
1. Its good for the environment. Hmm 5 children... How much did i contribute to disposables in the landfill? I dont want to know.

2. We are saving money. 5 children, how much did we spend in the past!

3. Toxic free is the way to be. I read theres some cancer causing carcinogens in disposables, do i really want them on tahleels bum?

4. That wet bag makes me happy! Makes travel easier.

5. Another reason to use my washboard. Saving electricity im letting the sun dry them. Good natural whitener

But we really go into more detail in our book here: Diary Of A Cloth Diaper Muslimah Mama

SubhanAllah we were sent a lovely set for Tahleel, which included:
 size M polar fleece diaper cover in "ivory" a moisture resistant and breathable diaper cover
Size M pull up pant style diaper made with 2 thirsty layers or organic bamboo fleece and 100% cotton gray and white pattern
Size m/l 2 sized pocket fitted diaper with green snaps and top stitching 

One mashaAllah I really love how the diaper looks and feels, I think it is very well made, not shabby at all mashaAllah. It fit Tahleel very well which gave him a good fit around the legs area (nothing came out the sides of the diaper) and the snaps help with adjusting just in case he needed a looser or tighter fit.  

Alhamdulilah two,  as I mentioned the snaps, the great thing about this style of diapers is that it can adjust with your baby as he or she grows. Even if your child is a bit small the snaps can be tighten around the belly area. 

And three alhamdulilah the material is very nice mashaAllah!! Not flimsy and rough, but soft and breatheable material. I washed them several times and they still look new, not stiff, not rough, and it's holding up very well. Some people may be a bit turned off by WAHM products because they may expect it won't hold up as well as store brand since it's factory made, but mashaAllah I find that when I purchase products from WAHM's there is a lot of love, time, and quality you can see in their products, because they also use them themselves mashaAllah, 9 times out of 10 they know what to look for, they know what families are looking for, and they understand the investment people make when they purchase products. I found this with Love,d mashaAllah alhamdulilah. I purchased the baby carrier for the spring look and I love babywearing mashaAllah!!

MashaAllah and Love,d along with cloth diapers makes beautiful baby carriers! This one I love, the color is beautiful, it's not thick and carrying my son did not hurt my back mashaAllah, What a great way to step into spring, by wearing such a happy color and carrying Tahleel in it. He was comfortable, I was comfortable. Win Win!

Visit the shop online and share with your friends! Natural, hand made materials for moms and children. Dalecia takes time to make sure her products are well put together. I'm sure you won't be unsatisfied with what she has to offer mashaAllah!

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Being A Good Example.. From The Best Example

SubhanAllah, feels like I have not been here to blog in a long time. It's like catching up with old friends, picking up where we left off, being excited about good news, and then parting ways until next time.

So dear friends, old and new, I have some great news mashaAllah. I was invited to speak in Philadelphia at the Natural Birth Natural Body Conference alhamdulilah!! SubhanAllah I'm excited and nervous.

I thank Allah for the blessing to be able to share and learn from others.  It's always quite a big deal when people are asking for advice, following along on your journey and seeing you as a good example. SubhanAllah sometimes we are in positions to be of means to help others, even by our words alone. I am appreciative that sisters often ask questions and benefit from the TMH page, all praise is due to Allah truly. Alhamdulilah we must all remember that even when we think no one is watching, The One is always watching. Our children look to us as examples, and we have to learn how to be better examples, and how can we learn that? We learn from the best example Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam and the other great examples, strong, intelligent, God fearing women and men of the past, who should be part of our present life in ways of action, mannerisms and devoutness to Allah.

Alhamdulilah as I prepare to speak in Philly I ask Allah to guide my words and actions and forgive me of my many errors and make me better than what people think of me. I pray Allah is pleased with the service I am striving to provide the community, which is to remind the sisters and myself to be good muslimahs, wives, and mothers and that what we do in our home and how we raise our children, impacts the world. That our beloved mission is one that is respectable and beautiful. To not be afraid to be a happy homemaker or be ashamed, we are making it known that we are not oppressed and sad about being service at home moms. Alhamdulilah we are happy with our station in this life and pray Allah elevates us in the next.

When I have time to myself i reflect on things like this and say wow subhanAllah I am going to be speaking to sisters about marriage, families etc ...mashaAllah alhamdulilah please let it be of benefit.

May Allah guide us to be good examples in our homes and community ameen.
For those in the Philadelphia area the conference info can be found here: please keep me in your duaas inshaAllah!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Keeper Of The Doormat

SubhanAllah, needed to come on tonight and share a few thoughts and realized I have not been the best at updating this blog.

Though we have added a few videos on our youtube channel. InshaAllah that has been a blessing. I'm quite shy but it does not appear that way

 First I want to say alhamdulilah this domestic darling was sent a beautiful apron from Umm Ayana of Ummi's House mashaAllah she has been such a blessing in my life!

A new apron is a wonderful feeling, my husband lovingly says "Some heroes tie their capes around their waist" <3 I think that is super cool

Well on my heart and mind tonight is thoughts of when someone called me a doormat. Yes a doormat...what should be and appear as a beautiful way to live-- happily homemaking, has sparked some unkind words at times. By no means am I a doormat, but I am keeper of the doormat. My duty is to keep away unwanted people and matters from entering our home and to also be welcoming and inviting to loved ones, friends and community.

Yes I am the keeper of the doormat and all else that I have been entrusted with,  and I have been entrusted by my husband to take care of our home and children. Alhamdulilah a position I will not complain about and it is one I am honored to be in. Alhamdulilah and so this is how Allah has made it.

Alhamdulilah it is taking me some time to realize and practice this: just because it may not be socially acceptable does not mean it's not acceptable to Allah. By far this is more important than the comments of those who do not appreciate the beautiful role of homemaking and the blessing it offers.

We are not to be walked on but we walk into the lives of others to be a delight, of service and kindness. No stepping on us... we step up our homemaking to a higher purpose...we do not abuse others or take abuse... but practice peace and positivity.... and give what we wish to receive as long as it pleases Allah

What I can do is offer much duaa for those who see homemakers as doormats and realize we are keepers of the doormat

Friday, February 1, 2013

Renewing Our Marriage: Marriage Vision Statement

We are working on our renewing our marriage.

We sat down and wrote our marriage vision statement.

What is a marriage vision statement? It's how we see our marriage, what we intend to do and fulfill ... then we add an ayat or hadith to solidify our purpose. Also a reminder that this is what Allah wants from us.

Our marriage vision statement:

We are committed helpers to each other
We resolve to keep Allah in our relationship
We are to support each other
We are not to be difficult
We are here to serve each other
We pray for each other
We pray together

We added the following hadith to make firm our vision, and remind us this is what Allah would be pleased with:

Prophet Muhammad sallAllahu alayhi wa salaam said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects: a man is the guardian of his family and is responsible for his subjects, a woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and of his children and is responsible for them. Surely, everyone of you is a shepherd and responsible for his flock.”-- Hadith

Aisha - may Allah be pleased with her- said that whenever Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam had to choose between things he chose the easier way he did not chose the difficult way-- Sahih Bukhari

 "If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers."-- Prophet Mmuhammad salAllahu alayhi wa salaam in his last khutbah

So... here we are, our vision for our marriage is in front of us, we can see it clearly, and we are praying it will remind us of what we are looking for from each other and what we should give from ourselves too. You cannot expect something of your spouse and are not giving it.

I want my husband to be supportive and helpful, and I have to remind myself I should be the same as well.

 In prayers that we will grow in our marriage, our children will benefit, our society and more importantly our Lord is pleased, and we did not make the Devil happy, auothbillah!

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Ummi's House Review & Giveaway

Alhamdulilah there are so many talented sisters out there, that are blessing our community! It is so important we support halal, family, and beneficial businesses. We were recently blessed to receive some wonderful products from Ummi's House.

When I say talented sisters, Umm Ayana Of Ummi's House and her mother are right at the top! Eco-friendly, homemade, handmade, and done with love and care is what you will receive from their products. Ummi's House is a mother daughter team, supplying products and services that can be used in any mothers house, hence the name Ummi's House. They greatly enjoy their homemaking hobbies, and it's that joy that is shown in their products

So this happy homemaker was beyond thrilled to use Ummi's house products.

Alhamdulilah our bread baking was extra blessed as we wore aprons from Ummi's House.

Allah is Merciful, we were baking garlic knots a few days before getting our package and I said the children needed aprons, well subhanAllah Allah  answered my duaa and each boy had an awesome homemade apron. My boys were to the moon!!

Thank Allah for His many blessings!

We put our hands in the dough and it was a blessed experience, there's no better way to make bread then with the ones I love. We KNEAD more love in the world, lol silly I know but true. And After all, we are team Rahim :)

Sun dried tomato bread  and a awesome breadbag from Ummi's House: Bread Bag From Ummi's House mashaAllah what a cute, cool, and environmentally friendly way to give the gift of homemade bread.

After getting flour on us and getting a little messy, it was sure nice to use this homemade soap from Ummi's House:  Rice Cereal Soap and Honey Oatmeal Bar

It came with a homemade scrubby that you can use for bathing or for washing dishes.

Ummi's House was so kind in blessing us and we in turn would love to bless one of our readers! alhamdulilah yay!!

We have an extra bread bag and soap set for one chosen reader! How can you enter this giveaway? Simple! 

1. Join Ummi's House on facebook: Ummi's House Facebook 
 2. have 10 of your friends join saying that you sent them (please post on the wall not inbox messaging), and 
3. last post a picture of your yummiest homemade bread/ or homemade bread item (i.e. pita bread, pizza crust, naan bread) on Ummi's House facebook page 

She will pick the loveliest loaf of bread and we will send you a bread bag and soap set!! After all that baking you should have a nice bag to put it in and wonderful soap to relax you at the end of a long day right? This giveaway is to end Sunday: Feb 3, 2013

Bring Ummi's House To Your House!!

Monday, January 28, 2013

Learning To Co- Pilot

We made a commitment...

When I married him I agreed that he would be the head of our home, that he is the imam of our home and I am under his leadership.

When entering marriage we are saying these things, not verbally (an sometimes verbally), but we know that with such a commitment there are things to be expected.

 Every job has a boss, someone that makes the decisions and in our home our husband has the final say he is in charge.

That does not mean we do not have a say, we can politely express our concerns and questions but the final say belongs to our husband. May Allah help us to respect that and be peaceful about it.

So we have to learn to be better co- pilots alhamdulilah, because sometimes we have the tendency to speak in a way that can insult our husbands leadership and not trust that he is making good decisions for our family.

Once we have expressed our concerns, questions etc and our husband still goes in the direction he chooses for the family then just pray Allah is guiding him and opens our hearts and eyes to what is going on, because we may not understand why our husband is doing x, y,and z ... if we were to understand it will help us receive it better.

When striving to advise our husbands it may be better to ask questions, not say "It's better to do it this way!" "Do this, don't do that!!" but say "Do you think it would work if we did it like this?" now we are showing him what we want and still giving him his right to make the final decision.

So this reminds me of the hadith on the importance of being obedient when we may question it:

 Anas bin Malik (radi Allahu anhu) reported from the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) that a man told his wife, as he was leaving his house, not to go out in his absence. Her father lived in the lower portion of the house and she lived in the upper portion. Her father fell ill so she sent a message and asked Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) what to do. He told her to obey her husband. Her father died, so she asked from the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) again regarding her case. He told her again to obey her husband. Then he (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) sent her a message saying, ‘Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) has forgiven your father due to your obedience of your husband.” [Mujamah]

Wow subhanAllah many of us would have had a hard time listening to our husband in this situation? Some of us may have left any way, ignoring our husbands orders astagfirllah... but subhanAllah look how the father was rewarded due to his daughters obedience to her husband.

There are much blessings in listening to our husbands and being patient with their leadership.

Can we learn to better co-pilots ? For the sake of healthy happy marriages and families we should! To please our Lord, we must!

Monday, January 21, 2013

Motivational Homemaking: Homemaking Binder Part 2

Okay well remember months ago I introduced my homemaking binder to everyone? MashaAllah see: Homemaking Binder

I updated it last night and wanted to share some new additions I added to it. I have been writing all my bread baking recipes in the book, homemade laundry detergent, and other new ideas. This will be great to pass on to the children, mashaAllah I am looking forward to seeing what the year will look like. All the menus and journal writing.

How do you benefit from starting a homemaking binder?

After menu planning for a good few months, I look back and can easily say, next week I'm making some or all the meals from the week of such and such date mashaAllah it makes menu planning much easier! It gives me inspiration to pick something we enjoyed before and helps to give me ideas for the other weeks.

Record keeping- mashaAllah it's pretty cool to see how many new DIY projects we made. Homemade toothpaste recipes and homemade cloth diaper detergent. I think down the road our family will be able to share it with each other inshaAllah and use it as a reference.

Now the new additions in the homemaking binder:

Weekly memorization goals- yes mashaAllah this is truly needed, how, when and what surah am I working on for the week or next few weeks. The ayats I need to memorize each day and so on mashaAllah helps me keep track of what Surah I am learning.

Journal time- mashaAllah when it is time to look back on the day, what did I learn? What would I like to accomplish tomorrow God willing? Well theres a new space in the binder for that.

Budgets- Way to keep track of what our monthly/weekly expenses are and bills that need to be paid etc.

Recipes- Printed out recipes or recipes from the magazines/ coupons etc has pocket space in the binder

Homeschool lessons- I combined my lesson plan book in my binder and that will serve as great record keeping mashaAllah

Do you have a binder? If so leave a link below! Would love to see it inshaAllah

Saturday, January 12, 2013

A Wise Woman Does Well With Little

Dear God, please make me wise ameen.

My friend posted this as her status "A wise woman does well with little"

Sometimes it can be difficult when you are not rich in money, but because we have family.. a husband who loves us, children who love us... then we are rich in love and happiness.

At times we have to remember that we can do so much with what we have. And a little goes a long way.. especially in the hearts of the ones we love.

We are tested in this area a lot,  for my family some of our happiest days come from the simplest joys. We tend to forget the blessings and fun one can have with what seems to be very little to some.

I remember one day feeling so sad and crying that I could not give my children some expensive gadget thing for them to have fun with.  It took me some time to learn that my children talk more about time baking together, growing food together, and learning together --more than they ever talked about some toy that was bought or latest anything.

I learned they love me, they love our time together, they don't "need our presents, they need our presence" yeah its true, even the simplest homemade gifts my children adore mashaAllah.

They are learning early to appreciate love, family, and making memories... not the expensive clothes, the glitter of life, and the emptiness of being materialistic.

As a mom we have to make blessings stretch... in face of financial burdens in stress, we must be more creative with what we have.

Maybe we cannot afford a movie night... but never underestimate the fun of sitting with family for movie night with popcorn and homemade treats, right in your living room

I learned to be more creative in times of financial hardship.. and learning to be grateful and make the most of what we do have. alhamdulilah

Our children and family look to us for boosting the morale of the home. Continue to smile and our children will not worry. Their hearts do not need such stress...

What we focus on expands.. if we constantly talk about what we dont have, what we want... then we lose focus on what we do have and taking joy in the blessings around us. And then we make ourselves sad and even angry... "why don't we have enough money like so and so..." we may begin to covet "i want that car, tired of catching the bus" .. and then spouses tend to argue more.

Ya Allah please increase our gratitude, change our attitude and help us be patient ameen

They say good things come to those who wait... even if it be until we get to jannah (may Allah make it so ameen ameen)

Friday, January 11, 2013

Yeast Substitutes- Kitchen Chemistry

Alhamdulilah after a year of bread making I am learning so much mashaAllah!!

Thanks to the awesome sisters on facebook I learned about soaking my flour, but that's for another post.

A lot of people have asked us about why we make no yeast breads. This is our taste preference, we think it makes a great tasting sandwich bread. It's not as fluffy and big like yeast breads but we enjoy them. Yes sometimes we make yeast breads too, we tend to switch it up every now and then. Our favorite will always be a yeast free bread.

If you are not using yeast then there are several substitutes that I have learned and tried personally.. when using a yeast free substitute there is no need for rise time, as you would have for a yeast bread.

Are you ready for some kitchen chemistry? Take out your apron and recipe book... yes you should have one of those :) inshaAllah and let's run down a few ways you can make a yeast free bread:

1.) Baking powder- Baking powder is ready to go, there are aluminum free baking powders and they do not need anything to make it react.  Baking powder contains baking soda and an acid inside. You just add enough that would cover the amount of yeast needed in the bread recipe. It is said a little is needed to help dough rise once it is in the oven

2.) Baking Soda- Unlike its baking powder brother, it does need a reactor that is acidic to help it activate. When you use this method, it is the last ingredient added with its acidic mate.

What acidic mates could you use?

Lemon juice- equal parts baking soda and lemon juice .. When baking soda combines with the acidic lemon juice, it creates carbon dioxide bubbles that helps the dough to rise! Woo hoo!

Vinegar- equal parts baking soda and vinegar --- no this does not change the taste in our breads, as far as making the breads taste like lemon or vinegar mashaAllah

Once you add these ingredients in, place in the oven right away... remember no rise time needed :) and always add the substitute last.

No lemon juice or vinegar?

Buttermilk works with reacting the baking soda

and if you do not have buttermilk substitute it with : yogurt and milk.. mix 3/4 cup plain yogurt with 1/4 cup milk

MashaAllah I have tried every combination mentioned and it works for us, our breads are good mashaAllah. If you ever run out of yeast or want to try something different then inshaAllah consider using one of these substitutes for yeast.

Where are my positive sisters?

 SubhanAllah we had a great week here at home. Very lovely time homeschooling, we have gotten much done mashaAllah. I spent a little time this early morning to do some blogging. I pray it is of benefit.

Is it just me or are we on what seems to be a shortage of positive sisters?

Lately, i have seen more complaints instead of compliments. Sometimes we have to learn to control our emotions better. remember to wish others well and not the opposite.

Not everything someone does will work in your home. we have to find what works for us. And on this journey it is not for us to tell someone else what they are doing is a waste of time, or stupid. We can say alhamdulilah this works for you and your family and leave the negativity behind!

One of the things that concerned me when doing Traditional Muslimah Homemaker was the concern of sisters putting me down. Alhamdulilah i have had  a very good year on TMH and had very awesome feedback mashaAllah alhamdulilah!! I had an occasional bump or two, and it caused me to ask.. why are we not supportive and positive to our sisters? We should encourage good, even if it may not be good for us personally. For example not everyone wants to wash clothes on a washboard, but that does not mean you should put someone down for it. There is no harm in doing this good thing for someones family, the harm comes when we want to bring others down.

Sometimes we may not realize we are doing it, we have to be more mindful of our intentions when we are speaking to others... what end result do we want to see? will it benefit in the end? why am I saying or doing this?

Remember sisters, everyone situation is different and we can only speak from our own journey. If someone can benefit from it, alhamdulilah that is great, but if they cannot then please continue to find what works for you. Alhamdulilah TMH is a journey i love sharing with everyone, of what my family does, new lessons and experiences learned in my life, and happiness in embracing homemaking. I pray something said and done is of benefit.

No need to rain on the parade, by being negative and saying "this wont work," "I can't do all of that" "no one does that..." "thats too much work" is it too much work to just simply not respond to something that does not work for you? Why ruin the positivity with negativity?

On the authority of Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him), the Messenger of Allah salAllahu alayhi wa salaam said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good things or keep silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be courteous and generous to his neighbor  Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be courteous and generous to his [travelling] visitor.” (Recorded in al-Bukhari and Muslim)

SubhanAllah I must remember this hadith. Please speak a good word to your sister in Islam, to your family and friends. As my friend always tell me "Shaytan is your enemy, not your sister" so please inshaAllah encourage and support positive, halal, and joyous matters.. leave the negativity and coveting behind.

I ask Allah to help us in these matters and guide us in our speech ameen ameen

Cleaning With Children

You clean up, they may mess it up.

I do not expect my home to be spotless all day. I'm a homeschooling mom of our four boys. Need I say more? :)
alhamdulilah but through the day I do teach the children lessens in keeping order. I am not the most organized person. I would love to be inshaAllah. I am on the road to doing that, and the children are learning along the way.

There are a few things that work for us when cleaning with children:

1.) Everything has a place- The children know everything in the house has a home. The toys have a home, their books have a home... and if its in the middle of the floor, it's lost and needs to go home. Yes this works with the children mashaAllah. My four year old said the other day after I asked him what he was doing "putting the toy in its home" I was so happy he understood that his toy did not belong on the floor (if he was not playing with it) and knew where it went! if the items in your home do not have a specific place, inshaAllah it is good to figure out where everything belongs. Less chaos if everyone knew where everything went.

2.) Clean as you go- This works for us mashaAllah, try not to leave from one room to the next, without taking an item out to put it in its proper room. Dishes in the living room? Don't just leave them, take them out as you leave the room and put them in the sink. My rule for myself is every time I go in the kitchen wash three items, in the sink. With all the children up, I may not be able to knock out dishes in one go, but I can do a few at a time until its all done.

3.) Routines- lately before heading to the bedroom the boys and I have been cleaning the living room before we exit. Thank Allah it has been helping me. They love to help and with the four of us we get it done faster, we race to see who can pick things up and put them in their home the fastest. The boys are getting adjusted to doing this and after its done we proceed with our usual story time/ bath/ bathroom/ brush teeth routine. Little children love to help, I lost count how many times the boys asked to wash their own clothes on the wash board lol.

4.) Pick a chore, any chore- alhamdulilah everyone chips in. The boys- one may put the toys away, the other may put the books away and everyone is doing something. I laughed because the youngest son, he pulled down the books and my two yr old said "we just cleaned that up!!" he had a "are you serious" look on his face LOL he was not pleased with the baby. I think he understands the time it takes to clean up and how it feels after having done something and someone comes and makes a mess. Life lessons at home 101 !

5.) Children are children- I really don't get bothered or get upset at how they play with their toys and love to enjoy themselves. After all they are not robots, they are young children who love to play and I love to watch their happy faces mashaAllah. We have to be realistic too :) I love to play with them and what is important is that when things are not in use it has to... read number 1 :)

InshaAllah if you have any special tips that has worked in your home please do leave a comment :)

The Homemaking Husband

Alhamdulilah this blog post is written in response to a sister who asked on the Traditional Muslimah Homemaking page about how can we get our husbands to do a fair share at home.

MashaAllah I'm a mom of four boys- four boys whom I pray will be good husbands, and while they are young: 5,4,2 and 8 months, they are absorbing a lot at their young age. They are picking up habits, they are impressionable mashaAllah and we have to make good impressions. Their father is their example . ...of how to be as a man- a father, a husband, a Muslim.

It is important their father show them how to be helpful around the home. Our beloved Prophet salAllahu alayhi wa salaam was helpful at home:

"He was very human: he would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself." (Reported by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 6/256; al-Silsilat al-Saheehah, 671) 
Aisha radiAlahu anha was also asked about what the Messenger of Allah salAllahu alayhi wa salaam used to do in his house, and she said, "He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray." (Reported by al-Bukhari, al-Fath, 2/162). 

How can we get our husbands to lend a loving helping hand more often?

1.) Please please please increase your gratitude. If he did the dishes, express gratitude.. "Wow subhanAllah habeebee, I really appreciate you doing x, y, and z for me. It's just what I needed to get done today, I love that you are so helpful"  you keep thanking him for what he does, and inshaAllah he will continue to do it. If you focus on what he is not doing then you will not see what he is doing right, It's motivating when someone tells you, you are doing a job well done. Makes you want to keep on going right? Give it time and he will keep it up inshaAllah

2.) Reward him- who does not like a little token of appreciation? Did he clean out that garage? Mop the floors? Picked his clothes up off the floor? Reward him, cook his favorite dinner, leave a sweet note, bake him a cake, and really whats sweeter than cake is the sweetness of appreciation manifested in action. Showing appreciation is important. The next time hubby washes clothes, be sure to do something nice in return. 

3.) Remind him- "But I tell him all the time he need to do some more work around the house, dang I'm just one person, I only have two hands" LOL alhamdulilah it's true, we are one person, and sometimes we have to give gentle reminders. "As salaamu alaykum ya habeebee, I'm feeling so tired today could you please do x, y, and z for me with a little a, b,c ?" Chances are your husband is not a mind reader, and he needs a loving reminder. Sometimes that's all some husbands need, leave a note on the fridge, write it on his to do list, text message him..but do not bombard him. Tricky? Not really.. if you combine 2 and 3 it just may work :) Plus, if you see him about to drop those clothes on the floor or put the dish in the sink... remind him of what to do, not in a bossy way. "Babe, if you're taking that in the kitchen can you wash that for me please, thanks a lot"  if you are working, and not home ..saying things such as "Before I come home, could you do a,b, and c? please?" and if he agrees, you may need to remind him lovingly.. a text message/email that says "i know youre busy doing abc, and I just wanted to say you're an awesome husband- thank you again, love you" not only did you remind him nicely, you complimented him.. and if he wasn't doing it, he probably will start before you get home lol.

4.) Team work- My husband is big on this!! He loves to help in the kitchen "4 hands are better than two" as he says, well it is true. Again, in a loving gentle way ask "Hey dear, I can get this done faster if we worked together.." "I love your company, mind helping me out doing such and such?" before you know it, you're laughing, talking and spending time together. This is how hubby and I make great meals together mashaAllah we have fun cooking together. Sometimes we are so busy talking, we actually move slow in getting things done, we then remind each other "Let's talk and work." MashaAllah team work work makes the dream work right?

5.) Patience patience and more patience-  InshaAllah he will come around, keep making duaa and using kind speech to let him know what you need. Also at the right time, simply saying what you need and how you feel is important, he cannot fix what is wrong if he does not know. How we go about it can either help or hurt us. This does not work: "OH MY GOD!! You see the dishes in the sink and you still didn't clean them!! I need a vacation! You don't do anything!!" yeah... you won't get good results this way. Best to keep calm (have you seen those pictures?) and say how you feel without insulting, arrogance, and rudeness. Insulting by saying he does nothing, arrogance because you feel like you do it all and he should be more like you and rudeness by putting him down. Hurting his manhood does not help.. reminder to myself . use our words to heal and not hurt.

Catch them when they are in the act of doing some help at home, and compliment him for a job well done! It's a blessing to have a husband who will go wash those cloth diapers for me, cook dinner at times, and watch the kids so I can get a little extra time in bed alhamdulilah.

He said to me one day, the more appreciation you show the more I am inclined to do those things. Yeah, it's true. My husband appreciates when I bake bread and it inspires me to bake more. If he did not pay it any mind and did not appreciate it, it would truly hurt my feelings and not give me the little spark I love to keep going.

When he tells me he loves my yogurt, I fall in love all over again lol, mashaAllah alhamdulilah. You know how it feels when your husband compliments you... so imagine how they feel. Alhamdulilah these are the few tips that have helped in my life, with the love of my life. I pray they are of some benefit.


Thursday, January 10, 2013

Alhamdulilah! We grew wheatgrass!

If you did not catch our how to sprout wheat berries post inshaAllah please check it out:
after sprouting the wheat berries we planted them in the soil :) and put them back into the dark until they grew about 4 inches or so long. Keeping the soil not overly wet, and covering them back up, for a couple days.
after about two days they started to look like this:

Then maybe four days later they were long thin and brown! The children and I were excited. Since it was in the dark for a good few days, the wheat was brown. Time to move to the next phase alhamdulilah we learned something important about Allah's creation in this process, and it became a whole homeschool lesson  mashaAllah this picture was taken yesterday. The first day out of the dark.

This morning walked in the room to this beautiful sight mashaAllah!!! How awesome and wonderful Allah's creation is. Not only did we have a nice two weeks exploring and learning about wheat berries, Allah blessed us to grow a food in our home that we can benefit from.
SubhanAllah here are few things I have read, and theres a link provided at the end:

It is said to:
increases red blood-cell count and lowers blood pressure. It cleanses the blood, organs and gastrointestinal tract of debris. Wheatgrass also stimulates metabolism and the body’s enzyme systems by enriching the blood. It also aids in reducing blood pressure by dilating the blood pathways throughout the body.
Stimulates the thyroid gland, correcting obesity, indigestion, and a host of other complaints.
Restores alkalinity to the blood. The juice’s abundance of alkaline minerals helps reduce over-acidity in the blood. It can be used to relieve many internal pains, and has been used successfully to treat peptic ulcers, ulcerative colitis, constipation, diarrhea, and other complaints of the gastrointestinal tract.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

A Moment With God

Alhamdulilah it was one of those mornings where the children slept a little longer.
I was able to sip my tea quietly and watch the baby play with his sock... yes a sock ;) lol alhamdulilah it's the simple things, at that young age.

 I really enjoy the peace and quiet.... it is a good time to reflect and gather my thoughts before the morning picks up pace.

If you have one child or more, you learn to appreciate the 5 or 10 mins of calm and quiet moments.  You also learn, your thoughts are clearer and it is  good time to mend and renew your relationship with Allah.

I truly believe every parent needs that time. Whether you are up extra early, or in the middle of the day when children take a nap... there is nothing like those reflecting moments when you can connect with your Lord. No loud noise, no screaming, no movement... complete reflection.

A moment to open the Quran and read His words, and read just what we need  to help increase our iman, our gratitude, and renew our hope.

A moment to put our hands together for duaa, and ask for us to have strengh, guidance, patience and ease on our days journey.

Our relationship with Allah has a lot to do with how we treat people, how we view the world, how we look at things...

Are you feeling cursed not blessed? Are you showing gratitude to Allah for what you have? “...If you are grateful, I will surely give you more....” (14th Surah, verse 7)

Are you constantly angry? Have you asked Allah to soften your heart? 
Al Imran- 3:134 Those who spend [in Allâh's Cause - deeds of charity, alms, etc.] in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allâh loves Al-Muhsinûn (the good­doers).

Feeling like your sins are too much? Did you ask Allah for forgiveness? do not despair, Allah is so forgiving!

Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."

We get close moments in our daily prayers... I totally understand with children how it can be hard to focus and really connect.. but there are some things we can do about that

1.) Adab- we should teach our children the importance of prayer and learn early that when others are praying they should not be so loud :) .. they will talk sometimes and they are children, but they must use their inside prayer voice ..which is a bit lower then the inside voice

2.) Keep hands busy- Make the announcement, okay in 10 mins we are getting ready to pray so please get your coloring book, reading book, or puzzle. We truly cannot expect 100 percent of the time children can sit really still until prayer is over. I do not know about you but mine have ants in their pants lol so they must keep their hand busy. InshaAllah I will share some games children play while parents pray

3.) Misri bunch, adams world, zaky's adventures.. take your pick and the children can be engaged watching their favorite islamic show. Zaky has one on prayer that we love mashaAllah!

InshaAllah we can take advantage of those quiet moments and salat times... and get more from our moments with God