Tuesday, May 22, 2012

The Islamic Art Of Being Lady Like

In this society, the more outspoken you are the more "real" you are. If you can say what's on your mind and not care who hears it and how it was said, then you are being "real".  Which is in reality, being real rude, crude, and reckless, which is real unGodly. On our social media forums, it seems that some of us ladies are not taking in consideration our tongues, minds, and hands subhanAllah.

SubhanAllah sometimes we are not thinking twice before we type.

Have you ever heard of the term loose cannon? Well, being loose is not lady like. Loose in speech, loose in actions.. is losing it-- losing our womanhood, depreciating it. Many "new aged" women would not appreciate this type of post, since they appreciate whats worldly acceptable and unGodly, and often depreciate what Islam says.

What happened to being lady like? Where we would not dare speak about certain subjects in a detail, crude, and vulgar manner?

As Muslimah women we should always mind how we speak, act, and converse with others.

The Islamic art of being lady like takes self discipline, self knowledge, and working towards self mastery.


Those who have achieved this and are working towards it do not do the following:

We do not curse... Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "A believer is not a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene."
Cursing is not attractive...it's not lady like and not part of Islam. Lips that keep the dhikr of Allah and not the words of obscenity are the lips that bring Angels :) alhamdulilah

We do not make public our private intimate matters with our spouses. Theres a hadith that teaches, "The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the man who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret." and this would apply to men and women. SubhanAllah if we are having issues in matters of the bedroom we should discuss that only with the party involved..our spouse and when doing so it should be done with finesse and tact, and that's a whole other blog post!

We should avoid gossip, the devil gives you work to do if you do not keep yourself busy. Women who are often not partaking in memorizing Quran, listening to or attending Islamic classes, or are in the company of positive God fearing people could end up on the gossip train. The Prophet salAllahu alayhi wa salaam said, "Do you know what backbiting is?" They said "Allah and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger  of Allah said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him."- Muslim
And spy not neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah, verily, Allah is the one who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." (49: 12)

We are mindful of our inward and outward hijab. Hijab is more than what we wear but it is also how we act. When around non mahram men, we are extra mindful of our voice and carry ourselves in a respectable manner. 
We dress in clothing that is not tight and shows off of skin alhamdulilah we dress in hijab in the way that is prescribed in Islam.

Lets be mindful of the Islamic art of being lady like, and remember that Allah is ever aware of what we do, and that on the day of judgment we will be called to account for every matter

If we do not keep our devils/ jinns chained up..then with them we will be off the chain! 

7 comments:

  1. Jazak Allahu Kairun for this great reminder!

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  2. Subhanallah! AWESOME post, sis. This is something I see many sisters do (including myself from time to time) and reminders like this are truly a blessing. May Allah reward you for your tawfeeq. Keep 'em coming ;-)

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  3. Salaams sis,

    Jazak Allahu khair for another beneficial post!
    Love it!

    <3

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  4. This is a great reminder sister! I do have a sincere question to ask.....do we as a Muslim have a duty to warn others? For example if someone misleads us and frauds us out of money. Will it still be considered backbiting if we warn others not to do business with this person, or we suppose to set back and see if the cookie crumbles or not? After all what one does to one person they may not do to others. Just trying to sincerely understand the difference. Jazallahu Khair

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  5. It is a beautiful post.. jazaak Allah!

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