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Homemaking Beyond Our Homes

After obligatory rites, the action most beloved to Allah is delighting other Muslims.”  -Hadith 


This hadith was a test for me this past week. We went to family and friends homes for a visit and before we went, I spent much time asking Allah to make me of a benefit when I visit them and not be a burden.  Sometimes I can be distant and keep to myself because of my shyness, but this does not help me benefit others, even though I actually thought it did.


One important reminder my husband gave me years ago is that when you go to someone else's home you want to be a benefit and also leave things better than how you found it. I looked back at my past visits and realized I could strive to be a better servant to my friends and family.


I used this weekend to implement that. Have you ever had a friend that came to your home, and they ate, left a mess, and did not offer to help out? Or have you ever been that person? SubhanAllah I realized that being a blessing in someones home is as important as being a blessing in your own home.


Who invites people back to their home if they create additional mess to the mess you already have to clean up? 
Makes me think of the following hadith: 


The most beloved of people according to Allāh is he who brings most benefit, and the most beloved of deeds according to Allāh the Mighty, the Magnificent, is that you bring happiness to a fellow Muslim, or relieve him of distress, or pay off his debt or stave away hunger from him. It is more beloved to me that I walk with my brother Muslim in his time of need than I stay secluded in the mosque for a month. Whoever holds back his anger, Allāh will cover his faults and whoever suppresses his fury while being able to execute it, Allāh will fill his heart with satisfaction on the Day of Standing. Whoever walks with his brother Muslim in need until he establishes that for him, Allāh will establish his feet firmly on the day when all feet shall slip. Indeed, bad character ruins deeds just as vinegar ruins honey.” (Tabarāni, Hasan)"


Rumi once said people want you to be pleasant, don't keep serving them your pain.   So we should go to other's homes to brighten it , not bring fitnah and worries. Bring gifts if we can and not stress.


Allah says in the Quran:





          Serve Allah And Associate None With Him. Show Kindness To Your Parents And Kinsfolk, And To The Orphans, To The Needy, To Your Near And Distant Neighbors, To Your Fellow‑Travelers, To The Wayfarer, And To What Your Right Hands Possess: For Allah Loves Not The Arrogant And Haughty Men.
(Surah  4:  Ayah  36)

When we visit others from now on lets strive to bring much barakah into the homes and be the neighbor (vister) we would like to have in our own homes.

Comments

  1. What a lovely post. To look at the other side and look at how we are a a visitor rather then a host. We all know we should be good hostesses but we should also be good visitors. I don't have many visitors into my home but when I do I want to be the best host ever. When I go to visit I want to be a GREAT visitor. I also LOVE to be a good neighbor. Taking food and helping out when I can.

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