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Allah: The Cure for Burdens, Fatigue, and Hard Days of Homemaking

Feeling burdened
Hard days

Some days we feel all these things, we have much to do and at moments we feel backed against the wall. Alhamdulilah there is a remedy for these feelings: Allah. 

We should never look at our blessings as burdens, the good and the bad of it. There is blessings in everything that happens to us, even in our afflictions:

Anyone for whom Allah intends good, He makes him suffer from some affliction. (Bukhari)

 Look at your afflictions as a means of purification in this world and ask Allah for forgiveness. 

Are we not tested daily with our children, our relationships and even property (bills bills bills)

 The believing man or woman continues to have affliction in person, property and children so that they may finally meet Allah, free from sin. (Tirmidhi)

No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn. (Bukhari)

 SubhanAllah! Take comfort in our discomfort! When tending to our families we should not look at them as burdens but look at them with love and tend to them with love and kindness, not with frustration and regret

No burden do We place on any soul but that which it can bear. (6:152)
And those who believe and do good – We do not impose upon any of them a burden beyond his capacity. (7:42)

Sayida Fatima hands were becoming sore from working the mill and was seeking assistance. Hearing that a few slave girls were  captured she went to inquire about obtaining one. When she could not find the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam, she made her request known to Aisha, later hearing of Sayida Fatima's inquiry he salallahu alayhi wa salaam responded to Sayida Fatima in the following hadith:

Volume 7, Book 64, Number 275 

Narrated 'Ali bin Abi Talib: 
Fatima came to the Prophet asking for a servant. He said, "May I inform you of something better than that? When you go to bed, recite "Subhan Allah' thirty three times, 'Alhamdulillah' thirty three times, and 'Allahu Akbar' thirty four times. 'All added, 'I have never failed to recite it ever since." Somebody asked, "Even on the night of the battle of Siffin?" He said, "No, even on the night of the battle of Siffin."

I read that hadith tonight and I had to share ! This is going to be one to remember when we feel the fatigue and worn out days of homemaking, even our beloved Sayida Fatima had much on her plate.

I am encouraging moms, wives, sisters that when we feel like it's too much,  remember Allah and strive to say this every night, keep asking Allah for an increase in patience, gratitude, and know that our Lord is Merciful and has blessed us every day!

Make duaa often in good and bad times. These are two duaas I say often when I feel that I may need an increase in patience and gratitude

Rabbi zidnee sabur - My Lord increase me patience

Rabbi zidnee shukr- My Lord increase me in gratitude

Happy Homemaking!!


  1. Thanx for this post. You have made me look at the "bad things" in a whole new light. :)

  2. As salamu alaiki. While I agree with you 100% that everything should rely back to Allah, I also think it is important for us to make sure when we get to that point, to take that as a red flag that we need a break and to take one ASAP! Especially to avoid burnout. Some husbands need to understand this, otherwise they will end up with a wife who wants to run away from her situation. Not trying to sound feminist just speaking from experience.

  3. Alhamdulilah Angel! ----Anonymous walayki salaam alhamdulilah we know our limits better than anyone else, if we do not function at our best ..we cannot give our best...we have to make time for those moments to get refreshed and rejuvenated

  4. Assalamua'alaikum..This article is so good that I have to share it through my blog..hope you don't mind I pass this beautiful reminder to other people..thank you..:)

    1. Wa alaykumsalaam aww mashaAllah please link back to here...alhamdulilah please send me a link so I can visit your blog too! :) thanks for sharing


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