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Prophet Lut's wife or The Righteous wife? Where do you fit?

I was up late tonight, well this morning, it's almost 3 a.m. and was engaged in this great discussion that inspired this article. Looking at women in the past Allah has given us the best of examples and the worst of examples in the wives of the Prophets.

When I go through my days I think of who I should inspire to be like, and use as my example for betterment ..the wives of our beloved Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam come to mind and then when I think I have to reflect on the opposite the women who act contrary to that  and this ayat comes to mind:

Surah 66 10Allah sets forth, for an example to the Unbelievers, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of our righteous servants, but they were false to their (husbands), and they profited nothing before Allah on their account, but were told: "Enter ye the Fire along with (others) that enter!"
 
Are we striving to live a decent and virtuous life or the opposite?

When our husbands test us, and they will test us, how do we respond? We should respond the way Aisyah responded, with patience and prayer.
66:11And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: "O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong"


She asked Allah in her time of need to help and save her, she was patient and did not act opposite in the manner.


Our husbands are nothing like Pharaoh but we have so little patience with them.  Look at the mothers of the believers, and use them for inspiration. Allah has blessed us with their stores so we can learn from them and use them for our betterment, Allah also gave us stories of Prophet Nuh's wife and Prophet Lut's wife for examples of bad character . "We have sent down Clear Signs to you, the example of those who passed away before you, and an admonition for those who guard against evil" (Surat an-Nur: 34)

 It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: the Messenger of Allah sallahu alayhi wa salaam drew four lines on the ground, then he said, “Do you know what this is?” We said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” The Messenger of Allah salallahu alayhi wa salaam said: “The best of the women of Paradise are Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, Fatimah bint Muhammad, Aasiyah bint Mazaahim the wife of Pharaoh, and Maryam bint ‘Imraan – may Allaah be pleased with them.”- Bukhari 
 We want our husbands to look at us and see good and when they are out working hard for their families, they know they have a wife at home that will comfort them, take care of them, and relieve them when they come home from the matters of the world. The world is faced with many battles and one of them should not be with our spouse.

Prophet Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa salaam always remembered Khadijah tul Kubra (radiAllahu anha) and moaned, "Never did Allah give me a better wife than Khadijah. She hailed my mission at a time when everybody shouted against it. She lent me the support of her conviction when there was hardly a believer. She enlivened my heart when I felt lonely and deserted. Khadijah's love was given to me by Allah (SWT). How could I forget her?"

What a beautiful hadith of how the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salaam looked at his first wife Khadijah radiAllahu anha.

We must also be modest not just in our clothing, but actions as well. 
 Maryam radiAllahu anha was a pure woman and modest, not just in appearance but actions. Our bodies are for our husband and we should protect and guard ourselves against provoking the desires of men that are not our husband.

And when the angels said: "Maryam, Allah has chosen you and purified you. He has chosen you over all other women. Maryam, obey your Lord and prostrate and bow with those who bow." (Surah Al 'Imran: 42-43)

Allah gave us beautiful examples and we should be beautiful and follow them, we are blessed to be in a time where we have these stories to reflect on and use them as a means to not go the way of those who were in error

At the end of the day when we examine our behavior where do we fit?

Comments

  1. I agree wholeheartedly that we must keep in mind these examples you brought forth of the ideal Muslim wife and her opposite. It is so easy to play into the role of the nagging, ungrateful wife. Obedience and passivity are looked down upon in Western society. As Muslim women living in the West, we have to work extra hard to hold fast the values that please our Lord, not those that impress our non Muslim counterparts.

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  2. Salam alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu my sister, I enjoy your blog and your writing. If I may point something out to you and please don't feel as if I am attacking you in anyway. I ran accross this video by Nouman Ali Khan (beginner scholar) at the beginning of the year and it was an eye opener. He talks on the subject of referencing hadiths and the understanding that goes with it. As muslims we are liable for any information that we post based on our own translations. I hope you may have the time to take a look. Jazak Allah Khair
    Nouman Ali Khan-Intellectual Humility-Quran Weekly
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ftp2qRg2xz4

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  3. you mention a wife that stays at home...what if the husband is not able to find a job, and it is actuallly the wife who works; or the husband wants and tells his wife to work (because that will ease their burden financially and she wants to obey him and help him in *this* way) - what advice do you have ? it is not easy for her to spend lots of time making him treats or even be so stress-free as to say lots of sweet words. life is much more trying and this is the reality for lots of Muslim women. How can we still be good wives? there must be hope and a place for us too.....

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